Story:
Dinner 2 nights ago. Sister asked what color the wedding would be. Responded didn't know. But I really wanted black bridesmaids dresses. She shreiked saying "you can't black is bad luck!" ok, whatever I was less than thrilled. Then finace pipes in... no we're not. No way, nope nuh uh. Umm okay. I say "Ok, we'll see. Let's talk about this later". He goes on and on Nope, we're not going to talk, no you will not have black. There will be some things you don't like and will axe them too this is mine, NO BLACK. I keep saying we'll see, lets talk about this at home in private. He just keeps shaking his head. This does not make me happy. Actaully I'm straight up pissed off. Don't do this in public in front of your family. Don't axe what I really want just like that with little respect or regard. Fair would be to have a discussion at home.
*a week or so prior* was the first time I mentioned black dresses. I knew he wasn't thrilled about it, but I said I'll show you it's prettier than you're thinking, take a look at some pictures then we'll talk some more. He still wasn't impressed but he seemed open to the possibility. He agreed to look at the pictures.
Then last night:
I walk into the computer room and say I want to talk about how dinner went, specifically when I was asked about the wedding and your reaction. I explain that I was upset my dress choice was not considered at all, we won't even talk about it and that he just veto'd me and sorta put me to shame in front of his family. I wanted my choices to be considered or his reasons to be explained. Didn't think that's too much to ask for. I told him I can compramise. I told him it was less about the color of the dress itself and more HOW he talked to me. He said "I'm sorry... BUT" this is his but:
"You should have known! I don't react strongly to many things but black dresses is one of them. I don't understand why you need to know why!? It doesn't matter why! I don't want it, so we're not having it. You shouldn't have to ask why you should just accept that I feel strongly about it and that be it. And I don't understand how you could have NOT known I was still open to the idea after the first time you mentioned it. I hated it and said no then. I only said I'd look at the dresses becasue I was being nice. I was never ever going to consider it."
Whoa... yeah. That was not what I was expecting. I honestly had no idea when I first mentioned it that was his version of a "strong reaction". And he sure *seemed* open to at least a discussion. I told him sorry for misreading his intital reaction. To hwich he responded: "I don't know how the hell you could have mistaken that". Seriously guys, I don't know where I went wrong.
This no black thing would be a lot easier to swallow if he'd given me a reason I could understand. Instead he just freaked out. Now I don't get black dresses NOR a reason why.
I'm really hurt, and very upset. And it's not becasue I don't get my dreamy dresses, it's his complete lack of consideration and explanation!
Shit, thanks for reading if you did.