Old Flames

[Glarey]

Hello, I'm posting to ask opinions on a situation I find myself in. I dated a guy for 3 years. We broke up and have been broken up for 2 years. Within the last year we became random friends. Texting occasionally and talking on the phone.(He lives in another state) Within the last 3 months we've gotten alot closer. We talk a lot more and are closer all around.

Randomly, he got upset with me and said he didn't want us to get close againi because I knew what would happen. Some BS like that. Well, I blew it off because it was CRAP. However, it made me realize I WAS in fact still in love with him. Well, about 3 weeks ago I told him that I was still in love with him. I informed him that he knows how I feel about him. I said you know you're my best friend and I'm yours. You, CLEARLY, still have feelings for me. I said it's fine if he wants to talk to me, but I was kind of done with the whole faking friends thing. (I really do love being his friend..but it's something short of torture. A little more explanation is needed there..but it would make this post tooooooo long)

He told me he understood how I felt and that he really wished that I would continue talking to him. I said he could talk to me..that's fine. I just won't initiate anything. Well, now he initiates everything. He texts me and has called me the last two nights. (He's not a phone talker...and yet he pursuaded me to stay on the phone for 2.5 hours both nights.) WE spent a lot of time talking about a lot of stuff. He said a lot of sweet thi8ngs and called me hon a lot. I'm not the type to read into things...HOWEVER, he's a very deliberate person. He does not say or do anything without a reason. I got the feeling he was testing the waters with me..to see how I'd react to his advances, etc.

We talked a lot about our mutual attraction for each other and how we've noticed the change in the other. No talk of a relationship we thrown around. I hesitate to think he's only after sex..because like I said he's in another state.

Guys, what would this mean in guy world?

[Raze]

You should not be friends with your ex.

[Glarey]

That doesn't help me at all. And I don't agree. Sometimes people make better friends than they do lovers. I know lots of people who remain friends after breaking up with no hard feelings..they were just meant to be friends not partners.

[erikasmith1982]

Old Flames die HARD....

[doppelgaenger]

It doesn't sound like you had a nice breakup, so why get back into a relationship with him? I'm willing to bet that it will end worse than the first time, and probably in a shorter amount of time, too.