This is a LD relationship. We know each other by long distance call. He asked me to be his friend, meaning somebody more than friends. He usually rings me and he has a very busy schedule. I seldom ring him. I am currently ill and not employed. I am using all my money on doctors bills, and I told him I have nothing to spare to call him regularly.
I then proposed to call on skype but he said this is not his priorty. He has skpye account and not ready to reactivate it. He suggested me to ring on his mobile for a few seconds and hang up and the number will display on his phone and he will call back. I agreed. But I feel like how come I become so close to him when I don't know too much of him. I feel like giving up myself onto him when I am not ready.
So I think it is better for me to email him or sms him instead of calling on his mobile which is very expensive. His work nature does not allow me to always call him on his landline (long distance). I feel so helpless and I dont want to make myself vulenerable. I know he is not too concerned about finance and willing to pay for me to contact him, but I feel like in the future I should pay him back when I get well and get jobs. May be he does not care if I pay him back, but I care. I don't want him to take advantage of me no matter how much he likes me. I have to like myself first.
But now my financial situation would not allow me to spend a fortune on phone calls, and I am not that eager into him. So may be email would be fine for me. Actually I feel so uncomfortable to just be so close to him that I want the whole thing stop. I don't care if the relationship is still there or not, I just care how happy I am with regards to myself. I really want to look after myself to get back on my feet. But at the same time I don't want to hurt his feelings. I know he cares a lot about me. I feel he has strong feelings for me even if he has not even had my photos yet. If I stop the relationship now, it will not make me feel more happy and be able to concentrate on my health more. So I feel I am being forced to accept the relationship and accept his offer given my circumstances. The only thing is, how to make myself feel ok with his offer?