What does I just dont want to be in a relationship means?

**autumnstormm** · 19-02-11, 03:28 AM

I been wrecking my brain trying to decide should I stay and work my relationship out with the father of my soon to be child. We been talking for 4 1/2 years broken up for and 1 1/2, but we do and act just like where in a relationship, I'm tired of not having a title, but keep getting all the benefits and special treatment, he gives me. He keeps saying he don't want a relationship, and I also found out there another female in the picture,he says shes not his girlfriend but she says otherwise, he spent Valentines day weekend with her and Sunday and Valentines day with me. I don't want to force anyone to be with me, but I have too, its either me, and his daughter or his lifestyle. Im so confuse because he always say Im the only girl he trust and how he wants to marry me, but he don't act like it. Im ready to cut him off, and give him time to make up his mind, meaning no contact, NOTHING at all, do you think he'll know Im serious and get the point, im fed up, but everytime I want to leave and move on he acts right, and say how he dont want to lose me, im tired of the mixed signals.

**sweetkissesforu** · 19-02-11, 03:34 AM

Actions speak far better then words this man is probaly sitting on the fence with your emotions leave if he loves you he will come back

**xxazurexx** · 19-02-11, 04:22 AM

Im ready to cut him off, and give him time to make up his mind, meaning no contact, NOTHING at all, do you think he'll know Im serious and get the point,

Yes, if you manage to stick to your guns and keep him out of your life. That means, that once you tell him it's over, you don't keep taking him back or he will continue to take the piss.

Up until now, you and this other female are giving him and allowing him to have the best of 'both' worlds.....and he's just loving it.

Only way to find out who he really wants, is to let him go.