He's been playing with me because I am always available.

**silentdisco** · 19-02-11, 07:46 PM

After we broke up and now he calls for sex ...?
How can I stop his messing and get back into our loving and caring relationship?
He says we are not good together but then he looks for me and he tells me he misses me and that he wants to be with me.
He says its not sex we have but that because we know each other so well just isn't the same to be with someone else. I feel the same we love to be in each other arm but when it comes to making decision and real file we used to argue too much so he decided to brake up. We have been working on the relationship for a year counseling. We broke up in September and I was broken hart for 3 months, but I decided to react and not give in. So I didn't contact him at all and after 3 months or just b4 xmas he came back.
He didn't say I miss you and love you and want you back, he said I miss our intimacy can we meet up sometimes. We did and after while we started to date again do nice thing and he opened up saying I am back because I want to try to be with you again.
Well we had an argument 3 wks ago and since then he's back saying its not point being together we are no good for each other...
What should I do? We slept 2gather last week and he said he'll call me this wknd, I don't want a sexual relationship, and I want him back for good.

**HeartIsAching** · 19-02-11, 11:15 PM

You want him back, and he wants to have sex with you. He's using your feelings to get your body. He's never coming back to you.

**silentdisco** · 20-02-11, 12:38 AM

I can understand that myself, the reason why I am in the forum is to know if there is a way to get my love back!Ii mean make him love me again as he used to!

**smackie9** · 20-02-11, 01:09 AM

Your relationship has expired and you should realize he doesn't like you as a GF anymore but the sex is still good. You are a fool for giving in. Close those legs and see what happens. He will ditch you.

You can't make someone love you. I would question if he ever did.

**silentdisco** · 20-02-11, 02:26 AM

I don't question if he ever did.
I still don't knoewhy did he stop loving me? why did he flip into a cold fish, someone who is not loving at all, someone completely different from the person I fall in love with.

**xxazurexx** · 20-02-11, 03:16 AM

He just stopped loving you and because he never likely really did love you.

Some guys will say anything and tell you what you want to hear and to get sex....he was likely one of them.

If he still loved you like he claimed, he'd be in an exclusive relationship with you.

He's using you for sex and until another piece of skirt comes along that will 'put out' for him.

Then he will dump you like a hotcake.

**silentdisco** · 20-02-11, 03:37 AM

he's not a shallow guy, I was he's first love, and the first person he's ever had sex with.
Sex is not as relevant for him as everyone here seams to thinkm and I know that deep in my heart, that is my loss... and what I am dealing with at the moment.

**ambaint** · 22-02-11, 08:24 AM

I'm betting he's enjoying the sex and is not looking for commitment. Ask him... are you just looking for a sexual relationship right now? He'll most likely be truthful

**sweetkissesforu** · 22-02-11, 08:47 AM

Originally Posted by silentdisco

I can understand that myself, the reason why I am in the forum is to know if there is a way to get my love back!Ii mean make him love me again as he used to!

I know what im about to say is harsh sorry but there is an old saying why buy the milk when you can get it for free say no more sex if he loves you he will come back if not he never was

**sweetkissesforu** · 22-02-11, 08:50 AM

Originally Posted by silentdisco

I don't question if he ever did.
I still don't knoewhy did he stop loving me? why did he flip into a cold fish, someone who is not loving at all, someone completely different from the person I fall in love with.

Maybe affraid of commitment if you let him No Contact rule he may change if he has feelings for you

**SelflessnHumble** · 22-02-11, 08:53 AM

Get some self respect and a fresh perspective.

He: sees you as a wet vagina: an inconsequential but tangible piece of ass to use + discard when done.
You: love him: (because your vagina is tied to your emotions) and:
He: uses this to his advantage...

What to do?
You cannot reason with someone who just wants sex: because you just spread em each time.

Time to either stand up for your self OR:
Be prepared for unemotional penetration.

**sweetkissesforu** · 22-02-11, 08:53 AM

Originally Posted by silentdisco

he's not a shallow guy, I was he's first love, and the first person he's ever had sex with.
Sex is not as relevant for him as everyone here seams to thinkm and I know that deep in my heart, that is my loss... and what I am dealing with at the moment.

Most men enjoy sex if they dont have to go find someone for it it becomes a relationship of convience you give it to him
so dont do it

**sweetkissesforu** · 26-02-11, 01:23 AM

maybe he is showing his true colors now

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