Okay I wanted to share my story. I’m hurt really bad and just need to vent. I don’t have many friends to talk to about the situation.
Im 30 years old and female. I’ve had 2 long-term relationships in my life. I was with S from the time I was 18-20. I was with C from the time I was 21-26. Im so use to being in a relationships and I miss it so badly. I took a long break after I got out of my 5 year relationship. I took time to be by myself casually date here and there, and to go to school. I was really ready to date again.From 2006- 2009 I met two more guys and tried to get in a relationship…both guys screwed me over and dumped me. I took another break from dating for almost 2 years.
December 2010 I met a guy on an online dating site. The first date went great and he seemed so excited to meet me. He called everyday about 10 times a day, and he paid me more attention than I have ever had. I met his friends and family, and hung out with him about 3 times a week. He seemed like he cared so much and he talked about our future and all the things we were going to do. I was so happy that I ignored a lot of flaws in him…..he was very stubborn, would not compromise, everything had to be his way. He didn’t really seem to care about my opinions. When I would tell him a concern he would ignore me and would not respond. I kept complaining about stuff because he wouldn’t respond. He put a lot of demands on me. He would get mad because I didn’t want to spend the night at his house, cook or clean for him…it was just too soon for that. Im a student and i was too tired for that at nighttime after class. I was sexually active with him though. I regret that. I thought he was going to stick around. I always had to drive to his house because he said he was too tired to pick me up…he lived 10 minutes away.
Last week he told me that he is so happy to know me…….Well he just dumped me last week. He said that he was tired of arguing with me and that we are 2 different people….and that we moved to fast and needed to develop a friendship. He does not want to work things out now. We talked on the phone 10 times a day so I thought we were developing a friendship.
How does a person go from liking me to dumping my in a week? How did he just turn his feelings off like that. After he dumped me he still called for a few days, which gave me a glimmer of hope that he would take me back. He told me that he is sometimes cold like that and it’s just part of his personality. He said that we shouldnt have arguments in a relationship that is ony 2.5 months. He would cause a lot of the drama.
Well I miss him. When he was nice he was really nice, and I miss it. He acted like he cared so much, so why wouldn’t he want to be with me. I’m truly depressed. I need help and guidance and advice. How can I move on. I keep crying. Help me make sense of this situation.
Seems like I will never find love