I have a dilemma. To make it work, or break it off?

[Golfer]

I have a dilemma and don't know what to do.

I'm in a long distance relationship and have been with this girl for 3.5 yrs long distance. Lately it has become apparent that neither of us is willing to make sacrifice and move to be with the other. We both have fairly legitimate reasons for this, but don't know f we can spend another year apart (we have plans to go travelling together in a year). We see each other about once a month for a few days as it stands.

To add further confusion to the problem. A new girl has come into the picture at my end. Nothing has happened between us, we just work together and have become extremely good friends very quickly as of recent. I find her extremely attractive and we have that *click* that you get when you meet someone you really like. We've been socialising together as part of a larger group and exchanged numbers. We text sometimes, and chat online. The conversations are always very politically correct, yet it became apparent that we both had feelings for each other and I decided to address it. First of all, let me be clear that as it stands (with me being off the market) I have no intention to pursue anything with her, or cheat on my gf. I'm not that type of person. I'm not very good at dealing with these types of situations though, so this was maybe not the best approach, but this is what I said ..

Me: I think we both know that there's something between us, but you know I have a girlfriend and you're leaving the country at the end of the yr anyway. I guess I just want to know what your intentions are and gauge what you're thinking?

She sounded relieved to know that I was feeling the same way and said she hadn't been able to tell up until now. I told her that while I did like her, I am a committed man and not to expect anything from me. She said this was fine, and she knew about my relationship and hadn't expected anything more than a bit of flirting I guess. But she admitted to liking me a lot and said I make her nervous etc. She asked me if I wanted her to back off? I said I saw no reason for that, as she wasn't really doing anything untoward anyway, we never have "innapropriate" conversations about sex or the like. Just friendly convos about things like music that we both enjoy and life in general. I haven't ever spent time with her alone - away from the crowd, and believe this to be playing it safe. However, I do like her a lot. After we talked she promised there would be no awkwardness and things could just roll along like normal, as they were...

So my question is, basically ... what should I do? And as a side note, a recent point of contention between myself and significant other is that she has been getting angry about the amount of female attention i seem to get. She's privy to some of it, given my social networking sites and accuses me of being a major flirt and encouraging girls to come after me. While admittedly I do flirt, it is never inappropriate flirting and is never with intent and would never lead anywhere. What are people's thoughts on flirting with the opposite sex while in a relationship? I believed this to be pretty normal human behaviour and was fine so long as no lines were crossed. Opinions please people. Thanks!!

[useless]

I feel like we're in the similar situation at this moment.

It's hard to choose on what to do. I get what you mean by you're not the type of man who cheats as I am the same way.

My question is, do you see a future with the girl you've been in a relationship with. You stated that neither of you are willing to make the effort or sacrifice to finally be together. This makes it seem like the relationship will lead to no where.

[Boisdevie]

Long distance relationship = no relationship