need advice on getting ex back that lives in another state

[loveherneedhelp]

my girlfriend broke up with me after 4.5 year. I believe I can get her back, but I have to move to california from atlanta. I plan to give her time, and become friends again but how to get out of friend zone in another state?

[loveherneedhelp]

me and my girlfriend lived together and our lease is up and i graduated. Since she broke up with me I am moving back to california where i am from because she is the only reason i would stay in atlanta. I am giving her time to see that she misses us as a couple and then start out as friends then I would get out of friend zone to get back together and she either could move to california like we previously discussed before the break up.

[MerryH]

Hm. I don't approve of your plan. It's kind of manipulative and underhanded. You're going to pretend to be her friend in a scheme to win her back? I don't think this is going to work out the way you want it to. How are you so sure she'd actually miss "us as a couple"? Maybe she's really done with you.

But to answer your question (sort of), it would be pretty difficult to get out of the "friend zone" from another state. Probably impossible. My advice would be to be open and honest about your intentions of getting her back, then leave her alone and move on. If she ever contacts you wanting to get back with you, then go from there. Really, there's nothing you can "do" to make her want to be with you again.

[loveherneedhelp]

yeah that is true i am not trying to trick her but she told me that she doesnt know why she feels like she does and i think that she is confused. We only been broken up a week and since our lease is up in two weeks I have to go to cali before then. I believe it might just be false hope but believe once i am gone she will miss what we had and possible want it back. Am i having unrealalistic expectation or are the plausible?

[hello1]

Why are you moving to another state for? thats properly why she dumped you