Do any female virginis want/enjoy bleeding their first time having sex?

[fun2bwith45]

I'm a male and when I had sex with my girlfriend, a virgin at the time, she did not bleed. Of course I know it's normal to not bleed but a few months after the fact I was asking her about it and she said she was expecting to bleed because the 2 friends she talked to about it both said they bled. I've got some insecurities about my penis size (which I've told her about) so I tried to nonchalantly ask if bleeding was something she wanted. She's VERY shy about talking about sexual things and her response was "I don't know". I persisted, citing it as a possibly official consummation of losing her virginity and she said something like "I expected to bleed, so I was a little shocked when I didn't".

My personal situation aside (which I welcome comments on), do any of you (or anyone you know of) actually WANT to bleed or to have bled as a sort of 'rite of passage' or something like that?

[bukan boneka]

when my first time, I did bleed very little. I dont even realise about it until I check the bed in the morning and it was just small faded red . I think u shouldnt be worried about it.

[girl68]

I would never WANT to bleed that's gross, messy and un-romantic to get up off daddy's couch and clean it all before he wakes up to the noise...

[qwertz]

You are obviously insecure and a bit of a dick to push her to answer whether she wanted to bleed or not...of course she damn well didnt!

[fun2bwith45]

You are obviously insecure and a bit of a dick to push her to answer whether she wanted to bleed or not...of course she damn well didnt!

Isn't it kind of unnecessary to point out my insecurity when my original post contained this?

I've got some insecurities about my penis size

Anyways, my questions wasn't if SHE wanted to bleed or not but if YOU (being a female) wanted to, or if you've ever heard of any female that took pleasure/wanted to bleed during their first experience with intercourse.

Thanks for your input though, I stress honesty and I'm always blunt and forward about awkward situations. I think she respects that even if it makes her uncomfortable at times.

[oldskool83]

Who cares, u got laied. i remeber when i married my ex wife she didnt bleed, i remeber he saying she had some spotting the day later. did i care, hell no! i was to busy getting laid!

[ShellyZ]

I sure as hell didn't want to bleed my first time (or any time). I thought I might, but I was relieved to discover that I didn't bleed at all. There was a little pain the first time (not much since we used lube and my boyfriend went very slow for me), but no blood, probably because I'd already broken the hymen by using tampons for years. That's probably the case for your girlfriend. It has nothing to do with penis size. If the hymen is intact, even a tiny penis would break it, and the girl would bleed a little. But if the hymen is already broken before sex (from tampons or even riding a bike), then there won't be any blood. It doesn't mean you're too small, don't worry.

For the record, most girls do NOT want to bleed when they have sex. Most of us hope we won't bleed. If a woman ever told me that she wanted to bleed her first time, I'd think she was weird.

[MaidenMinx]

I broke my hymen when I was about 10 by being dumped in the ocean. Go figure.

So no I didn't bleed my first time, and yes I kind of wanted to to prove that it was my first time. I ended up having an awkward conversation with my bf at the time explaining that is was truly my first time.

[qwertz]

Isn't it kind of unnecessary to point out my insecurity when my original post contained this?

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Because it is relevant, you are only asking this question because you are insecure. You should go work on that.

[MerryH]

do any of you (or anyone you know of) actually WANT to bleed or to have bled as a sort of 'rite of passage' or something like that?

No. Can you recall any enjoyable activity where you WANTED to bleed? Nobody wants that.

The whole bleeding/hymen/proof-that-you're-a-virgin thing is such ignorant, backward bullshit. OP, this shouldn't be an issue for you. It's really not important. At all.

[hello1]

This is like the most stupid question I ever seen on this forum. Who enjoys bleeding? I mean seriously is this a troll thread?

I didn't bleed my first time but I did bleed other times we had sex, a couple times afterwards. Did I enjoy it? NO, Did it bother me? NO.

[Horseyguy]

She didn't bleed because she did your dad a few weeks earlier

[fun2bwith45]

Thanks for the response guys. It seems that you all haven't heard of a case where the female wanted to bleed. **EDIT: other than as "proof" specifically to the male partner of virginity, which isn't necessarily proof anyways

As for the "stupidity" of the question, I think my personal situation clearly shows that I had cause for suspicion because my girlfriend would not produce a yes/no answer to a yes/no question. Of course she wouldn't want to admit that she wanted to bleed when she didn't because she would be able to infer that it would upset me because I would have "failed" in taking her virginity properly. Obviously this seems to not be the case so I appreciate all the input.

Because it is relevant, you are only asking this question because you are insecure. You should go work on that.

I know it's relevant, I was really just attacking you for your display of 1st grade reading comprehension. In other words, pointing out a concept that was explicitly stated thus requiring no interpretation or inference on your part. I think everyone else came to the same conclusion that I have insecurity issues WITHOUT you restating exactly what I said, but in your own words. That's all I meant by saying your comment was unnecessary, I agree that it is relevant to this entire issue for me.

[lovesickinva]

I broke my hymen when I was about 10 by being dumped in the ocean. Go figure.

So no I didn't bleed my first time, and yes I kind of wanted to to prove that it was my first time. I ended up having an awkward conversation with my bf at the time explaining that is was truly my first time.

I bled my first time and it hurt! Not something I would want again but she has point anything could've already burst her hymen like a tampon or in some cases I've heard masturbation with objects can like vibrators or dildos. Bleeding doesn't make her more or less of a woman afterwards. It's just something that seems to bring forth the myth of womanhood. It's the experience with the guy and if she enjoyed it and so did you then you two should count yourselves lucky

[Pakistani]

I never understood why girls even enjoy sex? isn't sex painful for them?? espeically the first few times?