Kindness and compassion are more powerful than anything. Sorry, I don't mean to sound like the Dalai Lama... My parents divorced when I was young. My grandfather (moms side) hated my dad. It created tension throughout my life. He held the grudge up until he died. My grandfather was admitted to the hospital after having a stroke. My dad showed up to be there for my mom, grandfather and me. That showed me that it is very important to rise above all the bullshit in life. You will miss out on soo much in life if you turn things away. Your kids will notice it.
You can have anything you want, but you can't have everything you want