I am going to summarise the problem because i posted the entire story a few days ago here and got great advice which i am following.
I have had a FWB since the start of the year, 6 months now. He wqas very kind funny sweet etc but had no interest in being exclusive, loves being single. In the beginning I was happy with FWB, I didn't have big feelings for him but loved spending time with him. It was a good situation.
I developed feelings (after about 4 or 5 months, quite recently) lately he hinted in a BIG way that he didnt ever want more from me. (on top of the fact of many other times that it just clear he only wants friendship and sex) This was just before i was about to tell him my true feelings and that I was interested in a relationship. But now I didnt.
Here comes the problem and i would love advice please - thank you so much
HE WONT COMPLETELY LET ME GO!! Seriously the other night I had resolved after lots of advice here, to just stop contact with him. But he keeps calling, keeps texting, keeps going as a friendship or to keep me in the picture in a slight way. We were friends for about 3 months before the FWB and to be fair the 4 months before I developed feelings, pretty close as friends. (daily talk about family work life etc)
EXAMPLE He sent me a text today - do i want to go for a drink.. i didnt respond. then he calls, i didnt respond. 2 hours later i thought I can't just not respond!! it seems aggressive, i know he would call me on it in a message asking why i wasnt talking to him etc etc .. so i just sent a text saying i was busy and somewhere else and to have fun.
tonight on facebook, he commented on a post of mine so i responded!! this is hard? people here the other day told me to get the hint that i am just sex to him, but why does he contact so much?? i think he is interested in other girls at the moment, but he suprises me, he never drops contact with me for more than a few days.
i think i may have fallen for him to a huge degree to the point that i should change my number and delete him from facebook, but then i think dont be so dramatic and try to stay friendly but concentrate on getting over him.
I don't know what to do next. I imagine his next move is to invite me (by sms usually) to this thing on thursday. he will probably do it on wednesday. i feel i am stuck with contact from him. do i keep telling him i have other plans and only respond to half his contact?? a male friend told me to do this until he gets the hint
i am so scared of him not being in my life i will miss him so much. but he doesnt want something serious with me. He likes my friendship (i actually do believe he appreciates my friendship) and he loves sex with me. i used to love sex with him too but then i fell in love. and i want more for myself.
thanks for any advice :-)