Girlfriend Being Short

[bob96]

Heya.

Me and my girlfriend are both 17, we both see each other Friday/Saturday and maybe Sunday each week. We soon have summer holidays off school so we will get a month or two of being able to spend more time together.

We've been together 2 months now and during the week we use an instant messaging application on our phones to stay in touch. Not texting, its a lot easier and faster.

She usually gets home at about 4 and messages me as I do my school work from home. Up until this Monday we spoke a LOT and you could say a little too much. Neither of us complained but I did feel we spoke maybe a little too often, even if it was just small talk. Maybe part of getting to know each other and making sure we both started the relationship well.

Since this Monday she's finished one hour earlier but she's spoken a LOT less. I am not saying this is a bad thing, because I have no problem with giving each other space, but I'm concerned its something I've done or maybe her feelings have changed about something for whatever reason. She's not moody but she rarely gives answers of more than "Yeahhh" and "Haha". Not only this but she used to put "x" (kisses) on the end of every message and she's only putting one now. Occasionally she doesn't put any at all.

So, does anybody know why this may be? As a side note, this may just be her "time of the month" which is perfectly understandable, she did mention she went to pick up some pills from the chemist which I believe are her contraception which she is starting after her period this month. I thought it was next week but I can't say for sure, which is what makes me think its more than just a mood swing.

Is there anything to worry about do you think? I have asked her if she's okay several times and she's been like "Yes ofc why? :O" each time. I'm not somebody who likes to go on at her so I trust her on that, but I'm just a bit worried there's something underlying. That or we've both become comfortable with each other - which is certainly true - and we don't feel the need to talk all the time and actually have some space, which is obviously a good thing, I'd just like to know. Its especially the lack of kisses at the end of her messages that worry me as well, its a small thing that has suddenly changed for a reason I don't know of.

Thanks for reading. Any opinions are appreciated. Maybe I'm just worried, I guess we will see if things have changed when I see her over the weekend.

[IncognitoSir]

OK, you need to chill out man. You're worrying too much. The lines of communication are open, you asked her if everything is cool and she says they are. Leave it at that for now. You say you're ok with less speaking but anyone who reads your post knows better than to believe that. Occupy yourself because you're about to be labeled "needy". "Needy" is a relationship KILLER. Get busy, be a teenager, go hang with your friends, get out. You don't have to push her away but you don't have to hold so tight either. Trust what she has told you until she gives you reason not to. This is normal, it a pretty new relationship, things are going to change pace several times, don't freak out, adjust, understand and DON'T stop communicating. Be cool buddy.

[bob96]

Thanks a lot for the fast reply man. Appreciate your words, I do indeed need to chill! I've made sure not to show these thoughts to my girlfriend as I was very unsure, but I'm happy to say your post has re-assured me and I'll indeed occupy myself with other things to do.

Cheers and if anyone else has an opinion I'd love to hear it.