My boyfriend & I have been together for two years and I am 8 months pregnant with a boy due in August. We both are the type of person that believes trust is something earned. Within the two years we've been together I can honestly say he is the first man I have actually trusted to remain faithful & never cheat on me or betray me. I have earned his trust also.
Recently he hasn't come home after work and stays out pretty late to the point where when he does get home he has to go straight to bed. Usually it's because him and his co workers go golfing or to his bosses house and have a couple beers but sometimes he doesn't even tell me where he was & I don't want to seem clingy so I don't ask. I haven't been worried that hes doing something bad until...the other day, I was using his cell phone while he was in the shower (since my cell broke we kind of share his so this wasn't weird of me to have it) although instead of just texting my friend I did look through his inbox purely out of curiousity. I read some text's back and forth from his friend Ryan the night before that went a little like this:
At 5pm:
Ryan: what are you about to do tonight?
My Boyfriend: about to go to this party you wanna go?
Ryan: With who?
My BF: Julie and me
Ryan: Oh I'm telling your baby mom lol
My BF: No, no bitches allowed
Ryan: Then Julie can't come
My BF: Shes not a bitch shes my bitch
Ryan: lol who's party is it?
My BF: I don't know
Ryan: you gotta know who's party it is
My BF: ask phil if he wants to go when he gets out of work
(A couple more texts go back and forth and my bf is reluctant to tell him who's party it is even though he asked Ryan to go, they text later that night)
10 pm:
My BF: So does phil want to go?
Ryan: I'll ask him when he picks me up
No more texts to Ryan after that and I know he didn't go to the party because he was with me that whole day and night. But he did say "HM" outloud while texting that night and i got a funny feeling from it but brushed it off. When I read those texts my heart sank, who was Julie?
My boyfriend acts different around Ryan. Ryan makes it seem cool to f*ck as many girls as possible (and call them bitches), my bf, not so much but he trys to fit in and stay cool. For some reason right after I read it though I didn't believe it, I know my bf really well and the fact that he wouldn't even say who's party it was and didn't really seem sincere about going made me think it was a lie.
So far this summer all my bf has done is worked and stayed at home with me since I'm very pregnant and can't do much, when he hangs out with Ryan & Phil I know they talk about alll the parties they go to and all the girls they have sex with. I even bet Ryan has asked him, "you really only been f*cking Maggie (me) for two years? & you got a baby on the way, you're stuck with her now" So maybe I'm in denial that he is possibly cheating and definitely hanging out with some other girl but I got the feeling it was all a show so he could seem cool to the guys even though really he is faithful.
What do you think? What should I do? I want to confront him about it but I don't want to admit I snooped through his cell phone. I also heard not to accuse your significant other of cheating without proof, a plan, and a purpose. I don't have proof other than what I read which isn't legit proof, I don't really have a plan I just want to know, and my purpose is because I can't take getting my heart broken again. I've been cheated on by someone I loved before but the fact that I actually trust him... if I find out hes cheating on me, when I'm pregnant, I don't know what I will do. Help.