It's time to give up on him.

[nanano]

For a while I was kind of involved with this guy. We have been friends for a few years, but were always dating other people. A few months ago he broke up with someone, and about a month later I broke up too (I was in a LDR at the time). After that we started spending more time together, and a few times when I was at his place we ended up kissing. It felt good, and because we're friends it felt comfortable and safe, but I wasn't over my ex at all, and at some point I felt he was moving too fast. I stopped him, but then he became really distant to me. For a while I was worried that I shouldn't have said no, but then I realized, if he gives up so easily, it means he's not really that into me, right?

After that I was kinda annoyed with him and decided to just let him be and focus on myself, spending time with my friends, getting over my breakup, and working out at the gym. I didn't see him or try to contact him at all for over two weeks, but since it turns out he goes to the same gym, we started running into each other. We went out a few times, but always to go swimming or exercise together, we never went on an official date. He would always flirt with me, but never try to take it further.

This weekend he will leave to take a trip for almost 3 weeks. I think it's a good chance to just put all this behind me, and get over him for good. Even though he wants to spend time with me and flirts with me, he doesn't try to make me his girlfriend. And actually, I'm not sure of my feelings for him either. I like him, and I'm attracted to him, but I'm not in love..

Still, it's sad to say goodbye to this rebound thing and return to being all alone. Even though it wasn't much more than a fling, I do like him and I felt happy to be close to him. But I guess I should wait for someone who tries hard to make me his, instead of waiting around for someone who I'm not even sure about myself.

[lahnnabell]

He wants sex and he wants to do as little as possible to get it. Ha. Forget this loser.

Unless of course you want to screw him. Then go ahead. It'll be nothing more than that.

[Kyeema]

You stopped him and probably told him you needed time to get over your ex, didn't you? Then it could be that he perhaps just respects your wish and gives you the time you need? But of course it could also be that you were only a rebound for him as well and that there's nothing more to it. That's something only you can find out.

But then, you don't love him, so why do you really care? Listen carefully into yourself - is it really your heart that is hurt by him not asking you out / making you his girlfriend or is it just your pride?

Perhaps these 3 weeks are a good time for you to make up your mind and find out what you really feel and want.

Wish you all the best!
Kyeema