Dont know what to do...

[Didact1]

Ok this is the first time I've actually liked a girl and perhaps considering taking this opportunity... First of all im shy and I get discouraged easily...

There's this girl at uni... and she's in the same course as me. We were in another course in Semester 1 but I didn't have the courage to talk to her... Or even meet each other. I did eventually meet her and introduced myself to her and we can contact each other through facebook...

I can chat/post on her wall and she'll reply and i feel ok....

However when in the lecture we dont really talk... I mean i'll be honest I dont know her well she doesnt so we're just acquaintances, i mean i would say "hello" and she'll say hello back, i ask her how she is but thats all it really is...

I get thoughts like, "what does she think of me".... I mean im sure she does suspect something? AT this stage ALL i want is friendship.

I would like to get to know her more and I dont have the confidence to sit next to her, well she does come late anyway so yeah... and even approaching her and saying hello feels arkward for me, and for her perhaps...

I just dont know what to do... I'm starting to lose hope and move on but idk... I still would like to develop a good friendship...

She's quiet... Well in the lecture room, online she's different...

I hope I'm making sense and... This is kinda bothering me, and I would like to at least well try? And see what happens? At least I can move on wether it be a "next time" or if something actually develops... Would love some advice

Thank you

[devonbrown]

I think most of your advice is going to be similar to this - get some confidence. That is the first and foremost thing you have to do. People like confidence. Figure out why you aren't confident and try to rectify that. You need to be able to understand that you are worth the effort.

However, since you already chat with this person on fb, that is your in. Just go up to her and ask her if she saw something on your profile. Or mention that you liked her last status update. Or something like that.

Good luck.

[Didact1]

Ahh i know... confidence is important...

I'll try... talk to her more idk sometimes i feel like im overdoing it? I do wander a bit in terms of thoughts but yeah i cant think of topics or anything else other than what courses shes doing, how is she and uni related stuff.... any ideas what i should talk about other than uni? lol again sorry im new to this idea of relationships, ive never been in one or even thought of it until now