A little sad about how affair ended

[toots120]

I need support not calling, not texting, not IMing. He got made at me last Thurs over what I don't understand. Cancelled our plans and won't speak to me. He didn't unfriend me on FB. We went thru this before. Then he started liking a few things and then I reached out.

I'm not sure I want to go through that again. But ....

Anyway, I"m 40 bisexual woman. I'm in a relationship. This was an affair. No one knows so I have nowhere to seek solace or advice.

[Wakeup]

If this happened before then I suggest you delete and block him from facebook and don't "reach out" again. You two were not meant to be life partners. If you were, "this" wouldn't keep happening.

You'll hurt for a while but you'll soon enough be indifferent to any feelings to him if you go no contact and don't creep his fkfacebook page. If you or he are married to or otherwise involved with innocent others then leave your affair partner alone to deal with his marriage and you do the same. If you're not married then find someone free to be with you for more than just sneaking away to screw.

Learn about yourself and why you fear being alone or committment which leads you to have secret affairs where you know you cannot commit to him/her but you still stay with one so you don't have to be alone.

In other words, You have issues that you should work on so this does'nt happen to you again.

[smackie9]

Ya why do you keep punishing yourself? Wake up is right, stay away from someone that is involved with an innocent other ie; wife, GF.

Karma is an interesting thing, it punishes those who do wrong..... He saw you out as an escape, selfishly fulfilled his own desires momentarily, take advantage of your heart......he was using you....its not love, its infatuation. Stop living the fantasy that you are the one, the one they choose.....its all a load of crap. Be real to yourself, be with someone that is real to you, stop having affairs, its self destructive behaviour.