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    Should I even bother?

    Well I met this guy at my friend's church and the three of us had a brief conversation (however he didn't actually ask anything about us). He is quiet and is apparently not that sociable. I really liked him, then he added me on facebook (which my friend was surprised about cos she had to add him). I typed hi on facebook chat, with no reply.

    From his facebook I can see he's into similar things to me. I don't know whether to even bother trying to talk to him again as I don't want to embarrass myself if he ignore me again! The thing is, I live away from home so I only visit that church occasionally. But I'd like to get to know him and see what happens. I always go for shy ones and then they hardly talk! What do you reckon? If I should say hi again, I need to think of something to say!

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    Don't rely on facebook as a means of communication. Send him a message and ask for his number so you can talk to him.
    "All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley

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    Thanks. But hm, I don't wanna ring him. Don't wanna make it that obvious I like him. I hardly know him and he hardly knows me! Maybe I should send him a private FB message?

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    Quote Originally Posted by iamnuts View Post
    Thanks. But hm, I don't wanna ring him. Don't wanna make it that obvious I like him. I hardly know him and he hardly knows me! Maybe I should send him a private FB message?
    Why not? You DO want to make it obvious you like him, thats the only way you're going to have him. Being all "coy" doesn't work, send him a message.

    How old are you?
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    But he might be put off by my forward-ness. Don't guys like to chase the girl who plays hard-to-get so they feel an achievement when they get them? I'm 23.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iamnuts View Post
    But he might be put off by my forward-ness. Don't guys like to chase the girl who plays hard-to-get so they feel an achievement when they get them? I'm 23.
    23, and I assume very little relationship experience based on what I see here. You're thinking of how things used to be, its an equal opportunity world now, you can chase of be chased. One thing is certain, if you do nothing, you get nothing.

    Make the moves and stop acting like a 14 year old girl. 100% of the chances you don't take don't succeed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by iamnuts View Post
    Thanks. But hm, I don't wanna ring him. Don't wanna make it that obvious I like him.
    Then do nothing at all.

    Facebook this ... text message that ... jeezuz.

    People really make things hard for themselves these days.
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    Cheers then. I'll consider these thoughts

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