How Should I Feel...(Lengthy)

[Shiznay]

Hey its me again I am still here... Just so everyone is on the same level I posted awhile back about my situation in the Introduction Forum. Well we are still technically married neither of us has gone to file for separation or divorce and same story for custody. She doesn’t live with that guy any more his room mate said it was too crowded and she had to go so she has been here with me for about two weeks now but she still sees him... I still love her in every way a man should love a woman and I still play the "Husband" role... why I do not know. I actually do more than what any man should... I drive her to and from work, doctor visits for her un-born love child, and I take her to and from "His" House... again I do not know why I do this.

Anyway to get on to the topic...

She has a cell phone and recently "he" accidentally dropped it into a cup of soda... which of course fried the crap out of it. So my very kind mother gave her, her old one so she would have some sort of communication till she could afford to get a new one. My mom’s cell is old and you can’t buy the chargers for it anymore and the only one my mom could find was a car charger and my "wife" isn’t smart enough to put it in a car to charge it... So I let her borrow mine one night while I was at work so it could charge in my car... My phone is a camera phone and on it I had pictures of her nude when she was pregnant with our daughter... Some may say that’s gross but I think a woman’s pregnant body is the most beautiful thing in the world... But anyway.
I told her prior to lending her my phone that she was not to delete those pictures... and she said ok. When I got the phone back they were gone... She said she was showing "him" the pictures and he got mad so she deleted them saying it wasn't right for me to have them. Now the nudity isn’t the point it’s the value of those pictures and our un-born child growing inside her and for her to delete them without even discussing it with me I feel is wrong... What do you think? Should I have kept the pictures? Did she have the right to delete them?

And about the how should I feel part...

That same day I picked her up from his house in the morning when I got off work... She came out with flowers and teddy bears and stuff... just regular Valentines Day gifts... She asked me to not destroy them, I said ok. So now for the past few days I have been looking at a dozen roses sitting on my counter from "him" to her and it tears me apart.... How should I feel about this? And how would you feel?

I don’t know the past month of my life has been one big open wound which won’t heal and there isn’t any type of drug in the world to make it better.... Life sucks and I feel that my broken heart may never be mended back together again.

[Cybog]

Oh my ****ing god. This has to be about the absolute worst situation I have ever read on these forums.

Seriously dude. What in the **** happened to you? Did the part of your brain that says "You are a moron" fall off at the same moment your penis stopped working?

What in the Sam Hell are you doing with this woman??? WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS????

Someone needs to come over to your house and pimp slap some godamn sense back into you. I don't know how many different ways I can tell you to get the **** out of this situation and kick this slut-ass ho to the curb, but someone needs to do it.

Why are you doing all of these things for her? Here's a Newsflash for you pal:

You are driving her to another man's house so he can **** her.

Go ahead and remind yourself of that a few thousand times until it actually sinks in.

I don’t know the past month of my life has been one big open wound which won’t heal and there isn’t any type of drug in the world to make it better.... Life sucks and I feel that my broken heart may never be mended back together again.

You sir need to come to the realization that until you get that walking stain out of your apartment, your life will never get any better.

THINK MAN!

You ask how any of us would feel in this situation. Nobody here who hasn't had a lobotomy yet would ever allow ourselves to GET into this situation! This whole thing reeks of disaster that until you get out of it will never get any better.

I don't even know what else to say.

[inkeepingsecret]

OMG,,,,,,,,,,,is this guy stupid, or is it that he isso god damn oblivious to what is really going on. Cybog was right, this is the worst situation on this whole site. Dude, you know what to do. No man deserves to deal with this shiz. I say, get away as fast as you can. I know she has your kid and all, but you need to get away from her. Jesus christ how much shiz are you going to take? If you keep on doing this to yourself you are gonna explode one day.

You very well may need some therapy man. And I thought i had a hard time!!! GET AWAY!!!!!!

[butterflylove]

Shiznay, For one dear you need to kick her out she is using you. Two, you should never had let her take you rphone that was yours. She had NO RIGHT to delete them. Thrid. KICK HER OUT! and get a dang divorce!!!!!!!!!!! She is no good for you.

[skeet]

its hard to let go of someone you love.. but driving her to another man's house is plain stupid.

[butterflylove]

yes it is skeet, I have been there... But he needs tolet her go kick he rout.. Or he won't heel.