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    Relationship and university, worry?

    Hi, this question is really based on university.
    I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, he is lovely and things are great. When we first met 3 years ago we clicked straight away, were bestfriends and fell in love. We have been together through everything and know eachother very well, we have both agreed we're soulmates and both never want to be apart.
    However, he goes to university next year, I don't know why I'm worrying so early but I am... he does however, want me to go to the same university as him(we were both interested in the same unis before the relationship I am not going because of him. But I'll be joining university a year after him.
    He wants to be with me and I trust that, I do. We've spoken about it so many times.
    This isn't his first time at university, he dropped out last year, went back to college and got some more qualifications and is rejoining.
    He's been through the first time uni experience already, he's fooled around, had his fun. Although I do worry when he goes back he'll want to 'play the field' again, although he has told me he doesn't want to and can't wait for me to join the uni experience with him. I suppose it's due to trust, but it's lingering in the back of my mind he loves me so much and I can see it, but why am I worrying? Will we be okay? Be nice please!

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    It's really not realistic to expect a long-distance monogamous relationship to last with someone who is leaving you behind to go to university. 3/4 of the university experience is social experimentation. Yes, he could potentially sacrifice that to stay in a relationship with you, but then you will represent the death of sexual adventure to him. Not very sexy.

    It doesn't have to happen that way; nobody knows the two of you but you. But you're setting yourself up to be at odds with sex and adventure, when what you want is to be his sex and adventure. Think about how you might accomplish that. You have a whole year.

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    Thanks for your reply, however he is 24 and I am 20.
    He's had a lot of sex and experimented a lot, he's done with that side of things. I don't think I'm the death of sexual adventure to him considering he's had a lot and even said himself he's had enough sex with different people. He's said himself he's ready to be with me and I'm enough for him.
    Sex isn't everything here, please remember that.

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    Where did I say that "sex is everything?" I said that sex is important. You do understand the difference?

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