What evidence do you have that makes you think his family will not like you? Or are you just nervous?
Race doesn't mean much to me, but culture does. My grandparents brought over friends from Italy in the 1940s and they lived next door to my grandparents. My uncle married one of the sisters. They were nice people, but we did not have much in common but we still had some fun when we visited them. So we did not have much to talk about, and I did not fit in well, even though we were both "white". I have met some very nice black families where I would fit in just fine. I have also met some black families where we would not share any common attitudes or interests. It's about culture, interests, and attitudes, not race.
Anyway, the traditional Italian family I am familiar with is:
- They are loud whether they are happy or fighting.
- They fight about everything but still love each other.
- They hug a lot. But they may not hug you because they don't want to make you feel awkward. You will have to take the lead on hugs.
- They want you to eat a LOT. They have 10 course dinners on Sundays and holidays. If you don't eat, you will offend them.
- They drink a LOT of wine. You will get some if you are over 8 years old. Drink at least one glass or you might offend them. They will refill it. After the first glass, you may sip the refill slowly. The wine in your glass may go to waste when the night is over. Do not worry about it.
- They are loud.
- They talk with their hands.
- They may offer you gifts. Take them all, do not argue. Compliment their generosity.
- The first time you meet them, bring a gift of a good wine, preferably from Italy. If you are old enough.
- If things get noisy, laugh with them and have a good time.
Last edited by bulrush; 14-11-11 at 11:19 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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