First time!

[royston1]

Hey, there is this girl I like! We got a great connection and have come so far that we are ready to "do it". But the problem is that this is my first time ever! She is alot more experienced then me as she has had two boyfriends in the past. She also might think that I not a virgin as I have alot of female friends and am the "cool" guy in the group, which puts extra pressure on me! I really dont know how to act:

Am I the one who is supposed to undress her?
Is it my job to ask for a condom?
Is it okay to touch her, feel her breasts ect?
Do I follow her lead, or take the lead? And what about position changing, do I ask her?!
Will she feel pleasured?
How long are we suppose to be at it, is there some average time?
Do I tell here when im about to ejaculate and do I pull out or let it go, you know where?
Is she suppose to have an orgasm hereself, and if she is, how do i know?!

These are some of the questions that are running through my head as I have no clue at all!
Hope you people here can help!!

[smackie9]

Dude you are responsible for the condom, so get some. If a girl is offering up sex you are free to touch anything, because well that is what she wants to get into the mood. If she feels pleasure is up to you and how she responds to you. Ask her what she likes and how she would like to have it done, does it feel good? etc. You have to communicate with her because every girl is different. As for ejaculating, you will probably won't make it out of the gate, so I recommend getting yourself off before hand to desensitize yourself a bit so you can last. Girls want you to last, anywhere from 10 mins to 20 mins if possible.

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Intimacy is a totally natural thing. It never comes with written instructions and it shouldn't.....you will feel where you need to go and what to do.... with a little communication you will do just fine.

[Yet another guy]

I've had sex a few times, so I hope I can help you. It isn't long since I lost my virginity so I get why you feel so clueless until you get the hang of it.

She also might think that I not a virgin as I have alot of female friends and am the "cool" guy in the group, which puts extra pressure on me!

If that puts extra pressure on you, tell the girl you're virgin so she doesn't think otherwise.

Am I the one who is supposed to undress her?

There are no set rules for that. I would undress her. If she expects that, you'll make a good impression (I doubt it would be a big deal though). I don't see why she wouldn't like it but if she doesn't she'll tell you. If you're lucky, she might undress you first.

Is it my job to ask for a condom?

That's a job for both of you assuming you guys don't want infections or babies. Don't assume she's smart enough to be prepared to take care of protection though. You should always carry a few condoms with you if you're going to have sex (one might break).

Is it okay to touch her, feel her breasts ect?

Yes... neither of you will enjoy the sex much if you don't touch. If she's ready to have sex with you, I'd be quite surprised if she didn't want you to touch her. Touch places that arouse you like breasts and buttcheeks. Also ask her what she would like you to touch and how. Girls have different places that cause them to get aroused when touched properly. Some may like it when you kiss their back, others want you to bite their neck.

Do I follow her lead, or take the lead? And what about position changing, do I ask her?!

Most girls expect the guy to take the lead. If she knows you're virgin she may cut some slack or if you're lucky, she might even take the lead herself. If you want her to take the lead, then ask her.

Will she feel pleasured?

Let's hope so.

How long are we suppose to be at it, is there some average time?

I have no idea about average time. Go at it until you ejaculate. Or she tells you to stop. If you get tired, ask her to go on top.

Do I tell here when im about to ejaculate and do I pull out or let it go, you know where?

If you're ****ing with condom, there's no need to pull out of warn about it. If not, if she's giving you oral for example, do warn her and agree beforehand where you should aim. While some few girls enjoy a guy ejaculating in their mouth, most don't want it near their face. I doubt she'll want you to cum inside her vagina either if you for some stupid reason aren't using a condom.

Is she suppose to have an orgasm hereself, and if she is, how do i know?!

Yes, preferably. Some girls (and guys) have harder time reaching the orgasm though. I suggest you learn to give her oral.
The girls that I've seen have an orgasm, made voices and trembled when they had it. They start doing that before they reach the orgasm though, so don't stop until they tell you to.

[Benni]

[QUOTE=smackie9;777014]

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That vid is such a joke! My guy had tried that and all I got was a seriously bruised pubic bone! It did nothing to make me have the "O"!!!

[bulrush]

Am I the one who is supposed to undress her? Yes.
Is it my job to ask for a condom? Yes. Most girls don't like ribbed. In fact, I've never met a girl that liked ribbed, so don't get those. Get one with lube.
Is it okay to touch her, feel her breasts ect? Yes.
Do I follow her lead, or take the lead? And what about position changing, do I ask her?! Most girls want the man to lead. She is also probably nervous and may not know much about sex. As for positions, keep it simple with one position.
Will she feel pleasured? I hope so. Chocolate helps.
How long are we suppose to be at it, is there some average time? If this is your first time, you should have a wank earlier that day. Your first time will likely be short, as that is how the young male body acts. The more you practice having sex, the longer it will last.
Do I tell here when im about to ejaculate and do I pull out or let it go, you know where? Put the condom on before penetration. Otherwise, you're a daddy. Then, with the condom on, you can orgasm inside her.
Is she suppose to have an orgasm hereself, and if she is, how do i know?! Probably not. She might be too nervous to have an orgasm.

Just take things slowly and be gentle with her. Do not go too fast as the friction might hurt her. I'm sure she's has not had a lot of experience.

A few more things:

1. Don't say "thank you" afterwards. It makes the girl feel cheap.
2. Snuggle with her afterwards. Talk to her if she wants you to talk.
3. Tell her it was wonderful and she did just fine, if she appears nervous. Don't say "it was awesome". That sounds immature.

[JohnDater]

Dont be too nervous, that will turn her off... just kinda go with your natural instincts man... once you do it the first time it wont even phase you after, its like rideing a bike

[Kaius]

If you have to ask these questions, you are not ready for sex.
Do not use porn as an educational tool. Porn is pure fantasy.

[royston1]

Thanks for alle the replies, it helps alot! I guess I'll just have to follow my insticnts

Last poster:
Lol, then when am I suppose to be ready? And no, I DONT watch porn to get some knowldegde.

[bulrush]

its like rideing a bike

DO NOT have sex on a bike. Not worth it. Do not have sex in a hammock. What a pain that was.

[royston1]

Its edging closer! She has been on a trip and we tend to meet up sometime next week, must admit im a little nervous! Btw, where do I throw the condom once we are done? Its not like I just throw it on the floor or go looking for a bin, wouldnt that disrupt the mood? And the fluid and stuff!

[stuckies]

wrap it up/tissues and bin it.