Drifting apart?

[Clarity]

Me and my boyfriend for 6 years got recently engaged..
for me, it felt like "ABOUT TIME YOU IDIOT!!!" since we have a 16 month old..
I mean I don't know anymore.. I feel like we are not connecting like we used to..
I actually didn't even want to get married anymore.. since it felt like forever before he asked..
and damn it if i'm a romantic, but i always dreamed that he'd have at least a speech prepared you know..
he just poped out the ring then said "wanna get married?" or something mundane like that..
and i was actually ok with that.. hey, lower expectations = happiness
but lately, it just got me thinking if it's the right thing to do..

he seems busy with work lately.. and work friends..
i feel, shut out of his life..
he gets home, eat, sleeps.. goes to work again..
i understand that he's doing it for us, but it would be nice to be asked "how was your day?" once in a while..
and did i mention, sex is rare.. im getting really frustrated.. once he got that ring on my finger, it felt like he
just stopped trying AT ALL.. i can take the damn thing off anytime i want asshole..

so what are your thoughts?

[dem862]

If you're in love, you don't need a piece of paper to stay together.
If you're not, a piece of paper won't keep you together.

[Clarity]

true..
marriage does matter, specially since we have a kid...

i don't want to think of the future where my son gets picked on just because he doesn't have a daddy at "bring your dad to school day"

i don't really have break up, as one of my options at this point.. i just don't know how to deal with the distance and alienation thingy.. LOL it just fells like, ---- all right, i got a ring on her finger, no ones gonna take want her anymore! sweet! i can do whatever!

[dem862]

You seem pretty demeaning to your boyfriend calling him an idiot and an asshole. Are you like this in person? Maybe this is one of the reasons he isn't around so much. And as for the declining sex life, guys like an attractive partner. Are you maintaining your looks and sex appeal?

[oneandonly]

You seem pretty demeaning to your boyfriend calling him an idiot and an asshole....

I agree. It may not be the case in person but still.... There is no need to use these kind of words when you talk about your partner unless you really think he is, in which case why anyone would want to be with an idiot or an asshole.

[smackie9]

Your attitude really sucks. The name calling is not called for. If your expectations were not being fulfilled then you could have chosen to break up with him years ago, but you didn't and here you are bi tchin about how unsatisfied you are. You can't blame him for all your unhappiness....a relationship is a partnership. Now get off that self entitled ass of yours and get both of you into some marriage/couples counseling.....time to be proactive instead of sitting there complaining.