help needed: man having a crash on a bisexual girl

[ma9fa]

the situation is a bit complicated, cos first i'm still wondering if the girl i like is bisexual or a lesbian.

some background, i knew her last summer in my university, i am the assistant coach of her basketball team, she is a shy girl with low self esteem, doesn't have close male friends. before i even knew her, she used to be very boyish, short haired, wearing men clothes(clues from facebook). but since she got into uni. she kinda changed her style, now she appears to be girly, wearing skirt and makeup, etc. but as far as i'm concerned, you cant tell a girl's orientation by her appearance right? cos i personally has friends who look completely girly, but on the other hand are only attracted to girls. so this is my first confusion hope some of you could shed light on it. but what makes me more puzzled is on a photo of her in her cousin's wedding on fb, she chatted with her friend and said 'after attending my cousin's wedding, i suddenly wanna get married too' 'they are so sweet', etc. just that she didn't mention she wanna marry a man but for your information the city i live in(hongkong) is actually quite conservative on gay/lesbian issues, no gay-marriage law, and people have a consensus that marriage refers to straight marriage.

1.) so my first question is does she sound a lesbian/bisexual to you?

for the last 6 months we were quite remote, i only met her when i did the coaching. we didn't share a lot and she isn't even my closest frd in the team. but weird enough she first appeared to be quite interested in me(laughing genuinely on my jokes, even the very bad ones @.@, gazing on me when i do the coaching, and when we see each other in the eyes silently, she will give a childish smile and tilt her head. to me this one is very girly and an indicator of interest), but in the team another girl whom she knew for 8 years likes me and one night when the team was chilling out her friend sat next to me and we play-flirt, she saw it and shouted to her 'why are you so flirty' then we were in silence. after the night she seemed to have distanced a lot, like escaping from eye contact, hiding her smile, not replying my whatsapp, etc.

2.) do you think she likes me or is it just my projected wish on reality?

after some time i did my research on sexuality and some psychology, i found that girls having same sex attraction are statistically more prone to the fear of rejection, i'm still wondering is it her safety mechanism to distance me deliberately to protect herself from rejection. but i figure i really like this girl so i have been very nice to her recently, caring about her and doing sweet things all the time. the team feels that and definitely she does, in one practice section the other girls in the team forced their way to pair us up oddly, she didn't reject, so we were doing some drills together, she seemed to enjoy my company, was smiling all the time, i joked around and she even hit me on my arm while she laughed, i must admit it was a very good time for me. but tonight she was another person again, tryna dodge eye contact, keeping distance from me, etc. at least not before she twisted her ankle and i gave her some medicine(those i prepared for her exclusively in advance cos she twists like every 3 days). she needed to leave for home earlier tonight, so after my attention she packed her things and turned around and left, but before she stepped out of the court she gave this weird moment again, she turned back and looked at me briefly, before i can give any response, she turned her head away without saying anything again. i have no idea wt does this series of event signal. i tryna be prudent and not falling into the trap of thinking sooooooo optimistically when it comes to situations like this.

3.) what do you think about her 'perception' of me(so prudent i dun wanna use the word feeling)?
4.) and most importantly my chance of being with her?

[smackie9]

Remember you can't judge a book by it's cover. I had a GF that kept her hair really short and wore army boots....she was not gay at all. She did tell me a lot of people assumed that and how it pissed her off. So stop over analyzing someone that you know very little about. You are getting the touch of the OCD there. Relax. Man up and just ask her out on a date.