She says she likes me and another guy. Please help.

[Unlucky]

Hi all, this is my first post here. I'm looking for some help.

I have known this girl for a good 5 years and we became friends about 2 years ago. She had a boyfriend when we first became friends. She would always come to me for advice and I would do the same with her. We have really become great friends. Anyways, she got tragically dumped 4-5 months ago. I would talk to her all the time to help keep her mind off of her ex. We are very honest with each other and have gotten to know each other very well, which may or may not be a bad thing. Anyways, fast forward to two weeks ago. She was a little depressed and started telling me about how she likes this guy who is 700 miles away that she met once and has Skyped with a lot. She said he gave her hope of finding love again. She also said there is someone else she likes, but wouldn't say. After further talking, she said it was me. I was actually speechless and totally caught off guard (with a big smile on my face). I never thought about her in that light. After saying our goodnights I thought about it. She has really really grown on me since we first became friends. I love her as a friend, no doubt, and could easily love her beyond friendship, but she put me in a weird situation. I have been sending the "good morning" texts every now and then to make her days a little brighter but at the same time she doesn't really flirt too much back, if at all. She said she "hasn't picked between either of us yet." Kind of broke my heart due to how long we've known each other. I feel like crap for having to "compete" with some random guy. The only thing I've done is I have stopped texting her as much so I don't smother her and make myself look weak.

Well, we were texting as friends Sunday afternoon for a little bit and she randomly stopped texting me back. She then texts me 4 hours later at 11:30 to have a good night. I didn't reply. An hour later she asked if I was mad at her. I didn't reply right away. I simply wrote the following: "I have been thinking, **** wins. He's dominant (she says he has a dominant personality, w/e that means), has a family, and has all that stuff you like in a guy that I can't offer. After meeting him once he seems to have your heart in a bind where as you've known me forever and nada. He must be really special. I can't compete with that. And as you know, being someone's option is one of the worst feelings and I don't want to have that feeling anymore, it's too heartbreaking. I'm sorry. Goodnight *******.

I didn't hear from her at all yesterday and she text me "Hi.." at 6PM. I wrote, "hey what's up?" and she replied "I wanted to let you know I haven't replied because I've been thinking all day and I didn't want to just say anything back." I said "No worries" and she asked if we could Skype later. We Skype and it's just basically as friends and she blows me a kiss. (Don't know why, she's never done that before.) She never said what she was "thinking about". So I just text her 2 hours ago saying, "You know what? I forgot to ask you what you were thinking about yesterday." She said, "I told you most of it, I was just shocked after reading that msg."

The funny part is, she didn't tell me anything. I don't even know how to respond. This is frustrating.

What should I do? She is really a remarkable girl and it would break my heart if she chooses this random guy because it will be too hard to stay friends with her. Our friendship would not be the same as it was before she took it to the next step, at least in my eyes. I know there are no rules to love, but I just don't want to get hurt anymore. Please help.

[VincenzoG91]

What is with this Skype and texting crap? Does she live near you? If so, insist on face-to-face interaction, and not stupid Skype. And why is she wasting time talking to some guy from 700 miles away that she met just once? As long as you are primarily interacting with her through Skype and texting, you have no advantage over this distant acquaintance of hers. And if she doesn't live near you, is there something preventing you from meeting and dating women in your area? Textroverts are lame, don't be one.

[James87]

Good point