How often should I fool around with my girlfriend?

[FlipsideJohn]

Hey all, I'm 18 and am in a situation. I'm not a virgin and have had quite a few FB's and friends with benefits, but shes only had 1 boyfriend and is still a virgin. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 months and so far shes been pushing my hand away when I try and put it in her pants. This keeps me from wanting to invite her over to my place and such but I feel like it is wrong to do so. So, I was wondering, how often should I have her come over so we can fool around?

-Thanks

[iamaninnocentma]

once a year, she sounds boring

[Boisdevie]

So, I was wondering, how often should I have her come over so we can fool around?

Don't invite her over. You're not going to get any. Not from her.

[VincenzoG91]

once a year, she sounds boring

On April Fool's Day, of course.

[vashti]

Do you care about her? If so, maybe you should plan a little more to do than "fooling around". Most girls want to feel like they mean more than a warm hole to put it in. Don't you have ANY other interests?

[FlipsideJohn]

I take her out 2-3 times a week, pay for everything, etc. soo thats not an issue at all. I was just wondering if I should ever have her come over to my house instead of always taking her out.

[vashti]

Well, of course it is okay; just have something more planned than just "fooling around".

[Boisdevie]

Well, of course it is okay; just have something more planned than just "fooling around".

Vashti is right of course. Good sex also drugs and rock n roll.

[FlipsideJohn]

Okayy. How often would be deemed appropriate?

[JustPassing]

If its just sex you're after maybe you should look for someone else or go back to having a 'f*** buddy' or a friend with benefits. Nothing wrong with that. Just not everyone wants the same things out of a "relationship" and sounds like you and this girl may be incomparable from what you've told us.

However, if you really care about her, and you want an actual girlfriend, Vashti is right.... you need to be able to enjoy other things together too! Sounds like she is new to sexual things and doesn't even have much experience with boyfriends, so she probably wants / needs a lot more time to get to know you first.. so that she feels more comfortable around you... before she does anything that intimate. If you keep pressuring her for sex when she's not ready... she's going to feel "used" and like you only want her for "one thing" like Vashti said I think.

Don't get me wrong, if you are a very sexual person and that's the most important thing in a relationship to you.. then I think you should move on and look for someone more compatible.

Good luck!

[FlipsideJohn]

I'm not after sex or I wouldn't have dated her in the first place. Girls are just as horny as boys, they just dont show it as much. If thats the case, isn't there a chance that she might break up with me if we don't "fool around" at all?

[Boisdevie]

Girls are just as horny as boys, they just dont show it as much. If thats the case, isn't there a chance that she might break up with me if we don't "fool around" at all?

Always a chance. But this girl won't even let you put your hand down her pants so she's hardly desperate to rip off your clothes is she. I'd fine tune the old masturbation techniques because that's all you're going to get.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Just dump her. You've already had sex before, and she's proven that she is okay with not having sex with her boyfriend.

Your need is not going to be met by her and it is going to cause a huge strain on the relationship(it already is, really). She's having all her needs met and you are not. Time to bail. Find a girl that's more in tune with what you want. A lot of people will say you're a bad person or whatever for breaking up with her over sex, but that's completely not true. You two just have different wants, period. End it while it's still early and keep hurt feelings to a minimum.

[FlipsideJohn]

Just dump her. You've already had sex before, and she's proven that she is okay with not having sex with her boyfriend.

Your need is not going to be met by her and it is going to cause a huge strain on the relationship(it already is, really). She's having all her needs met and you are not. Time to bail. Find a girl that's more in tune with what you want. A lot of people will say you're a bad person or whatever for breaking up with her over sex, but that's completely not true. You two just have different wants, period. End it while it's still early and keep hurt feelings to a minimum.

I can't dump her yet, summer is about to start and we'll be hanging out a lot thus getting a lot closer. I'll just wait til the end of august and dump her then if I'm not getting anywhere. Thanksbackuporgetstng you helped a lot

[iamaninnocentma]

good plan, lol