How to get girlfriend comfortable with porn?

[myusername16]

So me and my girlfriend are both 16 and we have been dating for over a year and eight months. A few months ago, I admitted to her that I had watched porn a few times while masterbating. This was a big deal because I had lied previously multiple times about it. It was the dumbest thing I have ever done. She was upset for weeks and it still makes her sad to this day, although she has forgiven me. Well we're doing this 31 days of sex thing now and on one of the days we are supposed to watch a dirty movie. She says that she'll be fine, but I know it's probably going to just make her very upset. She is very determined to do this, I think, but I don't want to see her upset. So should I watch it with her? If so, how can I make her comfortable with it, and not break down? If not, then how do I convince her that we don't need to? When she is determined, I can usually never stop her when it comes to these things. Please help!

P.S. The only times I have watched porn since then are when she made me while she gave me a BJ. Mostly it was all okay, even though each time I told her I don't want to. Well eventually she bought me a poster with two barely dressed women on it and out it on my wall. Then a few days later she got all upset from it, so I tore it down, ripped it, and threw it away. After that I put my foot down and told her I'm absolutely done with watching porn while she gave me BJ's. I don't know if this matters, but since then (around 2 months ago), we have been having sex more often than oral sex and fingering.

[Chris0516]

So me and my girlfriend are both 16 and we have been dating for over a year and eight months. A few months ago, I admitted to her that I had watched porn a few times while masterbating. This was a big deal because I had lied previously multiple times about it. It was the dumbest thing I have ever done. She was upset for weeks and it still makes her sad to this day, although she has forgiven me. Well we're doing this 31 days of sex thing now and on one of the days we are supposed to watch a dirty movie. She says that she'll be fine, but I know it's probably going to just make her very upset. She is very determined to do this, I think, but I don't want to see her upset. So should I watch it with her? If so, how can I make her comfortable with it, and not break down? If not, then how do I convince her that we don't need to? When she is determined, I can usually never stop her when it comes to these things. Please help!

P.S. The only times I have watched porn since then are when she made me while she gave me a BJ. Mostly it was all okay, even though each time I told her I don't want to. Well eventually she bought me a poster with two barely dressed women on it and out it on my wall. Then a few days later she got all upset from it, so I tore it down, ripped it, and threw it away. After that I put my foot down and told her I'm absolutely done with watching porn while she gave me BJ's. I don't know if this matters, but since then (around 2 months ago), we have been having sex more often than oral sex and fingering.

That is sick!!!!

[smackie9]

Not all porn is hardcore. If you are allowed to make a selection there is soft porn geared more towards women, produced by women. There is more romance and a story line to it and they don't show the actual penetration. Your GF might be more comfortable with viewing something like that.

The reality of it is, a lot of women don't see porn they way men see porn, because women think emotionally, men are more visual. So what you are going through with your GF is common. At that age girls don't realize that guy's brains are very different in their thought process, but as girls be come older mature women most finally understand it....they may not like it still but they realize they can't change the way you are and it's less of a bigger deal. Young girls are always just full of drama, so you have another 10years of it there about.

The porn and the BJ might have been one of her GF's hair brain ideas or she really wants to please you because she really cares about you. But whatever, this just a sign that the two of you need to communicate more....you are young you will figure it out. Come again if you need any more advice. Peace.

[smackie9]

That is sick!!!!

Really? and that's supposed to be helpful?

[Chris0516]

Really? and that's supposed to be helpful?

Because, What he is asking, is almost tantamount to, asking her to become comfortable with anal sex.

[smackie9]

There is nothing wrong with a 16 year old asking adults questions about sex...in fact it is very healthy to do so. What the hell is up with you? why are you so up tight about simple questions about sex? We are adults here are we not?

[vashti]

16 years old, and already so bored of sex that your girlfriend wants to use porn while engaging?

Jeezus. I am very sad for the future.

[myusername16]

We aren't bored of sex, I guess we just like experimenting and trying new things. I know that I have plenty of time for that, but it's still fun

[Chris0516]

There is nothing wrong with a 16 year old asking adults questions about sex...in fact it is very healthy to do so. What the hell is up with you? why are you so up tight about simple questions about sex? We are adults here are we not?

It is one thing to genuinely ask a question about sex. It is an entirely different story when there is a motive behind the question, and it isn't a good motive.

[Chris0516]

16 years old, and already so bored of sex that your girlfriend wants to use porn while engaging?

Jeezus. I am very sad for the future.

(thumbs up)!!!! I totally agree with you!!!

[Boisdevie]

Me I'm just insanely jealous. I never got a BJ till I was 20. Lucky young fella.

[vashti]

We aren't bored of sex, I guess we just like experimenting and trying new things. I know that I have plenty of time for that, but it's still fun

The thing you should be experimenting with is feeling a girl's boobies and touching her vagina, not alternative accessories used for people who can't just enjoy the human body in a normal way.

By the time you guys are 30, sex will be so boring, you won't be wanting to bother with it anymore.

[smackie9]

Kids these days......said by every older generation since the beginnging of time.

[fun2bwith45]

I wish my biggest problem when i was 16 was getting my gf who gives me bj's to watch porn with me :p

[jetta86s]

What do you mean anal sex? Did he mention that? Lol..

If you think that she is really upset about it, then don't do it. Try watching it first with her and if she freaks out then tell her you won't be doing it next time.