stupid me -- help!

[pointe21]

so, i met this guy this past week and we've been hitting it off really well... we would text each other in the mornings and throughout the day... i went on a trip this weekend and on my way back into town he called just to make sure i was on the road okay and stuff... with both of us being interested in each other, he mentioned that he was in my neighborhood, because he wanted to take his sister out for dinner -- but when he was done he was going to come by... i agreed that that was a good idea, but suggested that he just pick me up and i spend the night at his place... he liked that idea better and told me he would be on his way as soon as he was done with dinner...

to kill time, i bought a bottle of merlot and drank the WHOLE thing... i did everything i could to keep myself up; i watched tv, listened to music, surfed the internet and everything... after staying up for an hour and a half, the wine put me to sleep... i wake up to find two missed calls from him and a text message saying that he was actually in front of my house and waited for a minute before he decided to go home... i was still a bit buzzed from the wine i'd finished and got frantic about me missing his arrival so i called him... he picked up the phone and said that he was on his way home, so i asked for his address because i still wanted to spend the night with him... he said he was going to do something and he would call me right back... i waited for about 20 minutes and then called him... no response... so i get in the car and started driving to the city where he lived; in my drunken mind, i figured if i at least started heading out that way i wouldn't be too far from him by the time i was actually able to get him back on the phone to his exact address... i called, and called, and called... no response... so i turned around and went home...

i woke up this morning looking at the amount of times i called and the text messages i sent up until 3am... i was utterly embarrassed and didn't know what to do... i'm almost positive i made him feel uncomfortable and i don't want him thinking i'm a nutcase... i called, to leave a voicemail, apologizing for my uncanny actions, for it was far out of my character... i told him if he didn't want to see me again, i could completely understand... i went through the whole day feeling an amazing amount of guilt and embarrassment... so i sent a text asking him to call me so that i could at least talk to him about what happened last night... i have yet to hear anything from him and i'm just trying to figure out if i should chalk this one up as a loss... everything was going great until i decided to drink an entire bottle of wine waiting on him... i feel really bad about how silly i acted under the influence and i'm just trying to figure out what my move should be... of course, i'm not going to say anything to him until he decides to speak... but what do i do to get my mind off of this???

[pisces25]

IMO it's a bit of a harsh response if he never speaks to you again. It wasn't the smartest thing to do but people do make mistakes and you were doing a lot to make it up to him. I would just let it go and move on.

[bulrush]

Yep, I wouldn't be so harsh. Things happen sometimes. I'd be a little flexible if this was the first time this has happened. But, you did blow him off. He came all the way over to your house and you didn't answer his calls. You choose to drink the whole bottle of wine, no one forced you to do that.

Now you have to leave him a message where you say you will make it up to him. Be very specific. He needs to know you are sincere. If that doesn't work out, write him off.

[berg101]

To be quite honest if a girl was that bothered about what I thought about her and she was worried she'd made a fool of herself, if I liked her I would do everything I could to reassure her that it wasn't a problem and mistakes happen - then I'd turn it into a joke and say you needed to make it up to me etc. I wouldn't bother contacting him and let him be the one to make the first move - if he does, great, if he doesn't then he's not really worth bothering about - plenty of great people in this world.