Can I accept her

[Disturbed.sad]

Hi,

I am in a dilemma and need your help to get out of this problem. Please take 5 min to read the problem and help me out.

I have been in a relationship since 2006 and we were in the same city till 2010. 2 years ago I got my job and moved into a different city. Last year my girlfriend completed her studies but was unable to get a job. So she was a bit frustrated. At that time we used to have some small regular fights as she refused to receive whatever I said to her be it good or bad. Her parents were also not much supportive at that time. She used to complain sometimes that I was stressing her out and she was not getting any happiness from me. But I thought that she is saying so as she is frustrated and this would get right as soon as she gets a job.
However she always used to say that she loves me very much and wants to marry me. In the last 1 year we would have met for just 10-12 days but in those days we were very happy, had made a lot of love & even lost our virginity.
On July 2012 I discovered that she had been in a relationship with another guy since Aug 2011. She had been lying to me since then. When I asked her about the truth she disclosed her each & every black secret and promised me that she would leave that guy. But in the last one year they have spent a lot of time together. 2 days before I discovered about her relationship she even had sex with him. But even through out the year she used to say me "I am not feeling very lonely. Please marry me as soon as possible"
As of today after almost a month has passed she has got no contacts with the guy. She broke up with him and wants to come back to me. She says that "I know I have done a mistake. I have realized my mistake. I beg you please accept me. I'll do whatever you say. I''ll give you a lot of love. Please accept me."
I was in deep love with her and always wanted to marry her. However now when I think about the ways she used to lie to me the whole last year I start hating her. I have lost my old love for her. I am unable to concentrate on my work at all.

So please let me know If I accept her can I be happy with her my whole life.
Is it possible for any lover to forget such a betrayal and to love her girlfriend in the way he used to do.
Please let me know shall I continue to be in relationship with her or not.

[haxan]

That's all individualistic. For me, painful as it is, I'd move on and not look back. The cheating is one thing, the year of lying another. That's the deal breaker.

[Disturbed.sad]

Thanks for the quick reply.
But please let me know how can I trust her back.

[Cerby]

You can't, that is the funny thing about trust. Building it up the first time is hard enough for some people, but once it is broken it will never truly come back. You might get over it, you might even feel like you trust her again, but this though will ALWAYS linger in the back of your mind.

Break up with her, she has been lying to you for a year and you had no idea, she could just as easily do it again.