I feel trapped - And I thought I was good at this relationship stuff...

[Raddy]

Hello, I think I'm writing here just to get all this off my chest.

Iv been in a relationship for roughly 10 months now, and I know it may not seem like a long time, but I have just had enough of feeling so hurt all the time. I'm a 20 year old male and dating a 27 year old mother, I have had a few long lasting relationships in the past where I was in "love", and it is the same with this relationship, but I think this is actual Love, not just that petty stuff that is controlled more by lust and jealously.

Okay, so we have established that I'm in love with this girl, and im pretty certain she's In love with me too, and the relationship was grand for a first few months (as it always is lol), then she just started to change, I wont go into much detail about everything because ill be here all day. Right now, I feel trapped, she upsets me all the time, and I wish I could be happy and leave this relationship, but I cant because I love her so damn much, I feel like if I leave her she will soon move on, and thinking stuff like this hurts, and I know that is a bad reason stay with her, but its driven by the fact I love her so much. I'm not happy very much in this relationship anymore, but I just cant leave her, and in the recent past when we argued over something petty and she threatened to leave me, I even begged her to not to.

I dont know what to do and I can feel myself sinking deeper into a state of depression, today I wouldn't talk to anyone, and not so long ago I felt so angry and upset I started to cry, hence Im on here now seeking advice...

I wish I could explain more about what goes on in the relationship, I just cant seem to figure out a way to word it. All I can say is the stuff I have tried.. I have tried talking to her about all this many many many times, she calls me names, say's im being childish and often ends in argument (i.e. she never listens to me). Iv tried giving her space, I haven't seen her for 2 weeks now, and i usually only see her every weekend from Friday to Sunday. I wish i had someone to talk to about this face to face, I just feel so low all the time

There is loads of information I wish I could write here, but I will be able to answer any questions, questions seem so much easier

Thanks in advance

[Love'sReject]

Goddamn, sonny; you're ****ing lucky. You're living MY dream (well, except the quarrel/impasse that has you posting here; I could do without that). Is she hot?

[Raddy]

50% of being in love is just pain ;P, you spend years looking for it, it breaks your heart, and then you spend years looking for it again.. I know that feeling man, wanting a girl and not being able to get one is horrible so i guess I am lucky, I guess if things go wrong, I can look back at the experience and not focus on how much it hurt. ANd yeah I think shes beautiful

[Love'sReject]

Not only that; I've always dreamt of getting with a MILF. Anyway, I'm sure that and my previous post don't help your situation. I get pretty immature when envious.

[Raddy]

Don't worry mate , it'll happen for you one day, as everyone always say's. >.<

[HeartIsAching]

50% of being in love is just pain ;P, you spend years looking for it, it breaks your heart, and then you spend years looking for it again.. I know that feeling man, wanting a girl and not being able to get one is horrible so i guess I am lucky, I guess if things go wrong, I can look back at the experience and not focus on how much it hurt. ANd yeah I think shes beautiful

Absolute crap.

Love isn't pain. Real love doesn't involve pain, or angst. If you think it's love and it's causing you pain, you got it wrong and it's time to move on and try again.

[basilandthyme]

You say you love this woman....tell us why you love her. What lovable things does she do?

[reeba]

Haven't you ever heard the expression - love is blind? You don't always fall for a person who is 'the one' or who is a good match for you. That is why I tell people don't get involved with someone who you don't think is a good match, because you might fall in love, and try to force a bad relationship into a long term relationship.

Hate to say it but you need to face the pain and break up with her. It will save you a lots more pain down the road. And less pain means you will be a better person in your next relationship.