Need Major Help

[sekhmet]

Hello all, I really do need some advice and help. Please?

I've been dating this guy for about 2 years now, (3 years before then in high school). Anyway, I have a problem. He says it's not me, but I do.

I think he loves his sister and family more than he'll ever love me. Maybe I'm just a jelous type, but when we make plans for things, and his sister has something she needs maybe something that would take only 2 minutes, he drops everything and runs to her. Then he might stay over at his sisters for an hour. She's 16, so I thought maybe it was the whole, she needs attention or something, but then I sit and think that maybe not. Same with his mom. Drop everything and go even if we have plans.

We're engaged and I only have a year or two left until I have to transfer . he says he's going to come with me and all, but I still have this feeling that he would jump on a plane and rush back to his home if anything at all happened.

Am I being jelous? Am I being selfish? Someone please help me

[mhussain]

never love a man who doesnt love his family.

ask him straight up first is my advice...... and where are u guys from. i mean os there a cultural difference.

Hussain

[sekhmet]

I was rasied in an abusive house hold and he was rasied in one where his father had left which left him the "man of the house." My family always drilled into my head that the more it hurt and the more gifts that was given, the more of a family we were and his family was the more hugs and kisses and gifts then the better the family they were. He loves his family yes, but at times to me it seems to be too much.

[jay12]

I would be happy that hes only leaving you to be jealous of his family and not friends or other women.
Maybe its just something that you have to accept, or not ... definitely talk to him.

[ALovelyLady86]

Stays with his 16 year old sister? Weeeeeiiird lol.. you sure there isnt some weird incest thing going on here? lol kidding kidding.... I've seen too many pornos...

Anyhoo just let him know it bothers you, and that since you will be his wife soon, you are his future, not his mom and sister. Just talk to him...

[COAD]

Heres how it is with me and my girl

My girlfriend is priority over everything same from her side, I guess thats just how we are.

She makes plans with me first, then if one of us is busy she'll go with family or friends.. Same from my side.

[ALovelyLady86]

COAD... thats how its always been with me and my men also...