Did I do the right thing???

[sd62]

I am a 50 year male twice divorced. I went on a dating site a few months ago because I truly felt I was ready to date again.

I met a wonderful woman quickly, someone I was falling in love with and could see ourselves together for a long time. And she felt the same way. She is a fantastic woman in all ways. I have no complaints whatsoever, and felt extremely grateful we came into each other's lives.

But over the past few weeks, I started to feel like I wasn't, in fact, ready to commit. She wants to. I can't put my finger on it, other that I'm not feeling truly ready. In fact, I was feeling overwhelmed by it.

So I had to end it with her. She's very upset and angry, which I can understand. I was 100 percent honest with her from Day 1, and don't want to serial date or have one night stands. I just wasn't ready for a relationship at this point, like I thought I was.

But I really miss her and wonder if I let a great thing go. In my heart of hearts, I feel this is best for me right now, but it hurts. I feel terrible about the pain I caused her. I feel guilty that maybe I shouldn't have gone on that dating site in the first place, although my intentions were pure. I really hurt her, and I didn't mean to, but have such guilt about it.

I'm just confused right now as to if I did the right thing. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks

[Wakeup]

Considerting you've chosen poorly TWICE now and had to go through the trials and tribulations of divorce more than once, I'd say it was a very good idea that you didn't rush into anything new. You've known her less then "a few months" and you said you were honest with her so stop feeling guilty. Without contact, soon enough you'll not feel "hurt" anymore.

I suggest that If you go back on the site make sure your preference is for "dating" or "friendship" and avoid any status that implies anything else.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You're 50 so I don't know what you're waiting for. It sounds like you really enjoyed your time with her, so why not just keep the relationship at a level you're comfortable with? You don't have to marry her.

[searock2]

You're 50 so I don't know what you're waiting for. It sounds like you really enjoyed your time with her, so why not just keep the relationship at a level you're comfortable with? You don't have to marry her.

Because she wants a more serious commitment, that he doesn't feel like giving. He did the right thing, and shouldn't feel guilty because he has been honest through and through.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You're putting words in her mouth, and in his.

We have no idea what she said, and the OP just said that he wasn't truly ready, not he doesn't feel like giving. Since he enjoys spending time with her so much, why not wait it out a bit longer and see how things go?

[searock2]

someone I was falling in love with and could see ourselves together for a long time. And she felt the same way.

This is what he said... she could see themselves together for a long time. He realized he wasn't ready for that... so he did the right thing and left.