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[lullaby2]

Hello!

I'm new on this forum and signed up to understand my current situation better. My name is Kelly, I live in TL and I'm an actor.
There is this guy I really like, we've known eachother for a long time. He's been involved in a really rocky relationship with one of my best girlfriends. They broke up a year ago.
This summer, he invited me to come stay with him and his mother in their holiday house and then I ended up staying longer then i was supposed to and we eventually ended up spending the whole summer togheter as he took me along to stay at his other holiday house. He had a girlfriend, but always told me the contrary.

When we came back to TL, he asked if I wanted to be his assistant for this 2 week job he had to do.

We slept in the same bed all summer, sometimes completely naked and nothing ever happened. But when we came back to TL and a bunch of friends were sleeping in the same house, he casually put his arm around me. I kept turning in the bed because it was driving me crazy! We were cheek to cheek.

Then he kinda stopped contacting me but yet replied to my last email. I sent him a video in which I'm acting and he told me major compliments.

I'm not ugly but definitely have more charm then conventional beauty so his compliments couldn't possibly be triggered by my looks.

I'll also add there is this other girl that he's really close friends with, and she's way prettier then I am and way cooler.

I'm pretty sure it seems like he isn't interested in me, but then why on earth did he want to spend all summer with me? Was he "testing" me out?

Thanks for your taking the time to read my message!

[Wakeup]

Are you sure he's not gay? i don't know of any hetrosexual man that would spend a whole summer sleeping in the same bed with a naked girl and not close the deal. Did he even try to make a move on you?

.. Anyway, why would you let him confuse you like this, I wonder? Stop sleeping in his bed. Save men's beds for sleeping in AFTER you've become bf/gf and you're sexually intimate. Sleeping together before you have established what (if anything) you mean to one another just causes confusion.. as you've found out.

[lullaby2]

Haha, maybe he's just shy? I know it's very strange. But i think it's also fueled by the fact I was completely abstinent that summer and wasn't scared to explain as to why I was doing that. Also, I was close to his last girlfriend with whom he stayed a really long time so it would seem a bit yucky, right?

[lullaby2]

I also have too much pride to tell him my true feelings as I'm scared to be rejected

[RipVanWinkleX]

I'd would of said he may have been a gentlemen... but being naked in bed throws that out. Yea, I think he might be very shy. That or he likes woman to make the moves.

[RipVanWinkleX]

I also have too much pride to tell him my true feelings as I'm scared to be rejected

Don't feel scared about rejection. Guys have to go though that much more then woman. If you do want a relationship with him you are going to have to ask. If it does not pan out, you can always vent your emotions here.

[Wakeup]

I'm going to have to guess that he just wants to be your friend. Not too many hot blooded men who are being tempted by naked women would turn down an opportunity. If he didn't want to make a move because you told him you were being celebate O.o, then he should have shown you your own bed.

Why would you be celebate and then sleep naked in his bed, surely there was more than one bed in this summer house? This makes zero sense to me, I realize I'm no teenager but it seems like a very confusing thing to be doing regardless... perhaps it's your culture????
I really do recommend you stop sleeping with guys when you've not yet established what your relationship dynamic is. As i said, it's just confusing for all involved. I'd have to say he's not interested in you for more than a friend in any event. However: You can see if that's truly the case by either asking him outright/telling him of your crush or, making some subtle moves on him and see how he reacts.

[lullaby2]

Well when we were in his first family house we didn't sleep in the same bed and then when we arrived at his other family house there wasn't enough space and then it just became a habit. We would wake up and tell each other our dreams, I guess we just had that type of connection so it made it ok to sleep in the same bed. I'm still confused though, because we basically had a very romantic and creative time togheter while remaining completely platonic. Maybe he was just playing with me? Or used my compagny this summer? If he indeed was interested as a friend in me, why has he stopped to contact me?

[TheSaint]

Don't feel scared about rejection. Guys have to go though that much more then woman. If you do want a relationship with him you are going to have to ask. If it does not pan out, you can always vent your emotions here.

Like your style bro, lay the groundwork for when this chick is back here all depressed from the rejection .

[lullaby2]

hahaha that won't happen i literally will never tell him, it would be too weird

[TheSaint]

In that case, how u doin'? I'm an actor also. You might have seen me in a few things. Er, Breaking Bad, Dexter. I even had a small part in the movie Rocky 4.

[Wakeup]

Okay, Joey.

[TheSaint]

I was the dude catching Rockys spit in a bucket as he was training to avenge that commie **** that killed his buddy in the ring. Its on youtube.

[TheSaint]

Okay, Joey.

lol, no. I auditioned for it though. It was between me, le blanc, and adam sandler in the end, but I got tanked with with courtney one day and the director chased me off the set, lol. Good times.

[Wakeup]

... lmao ...

Do you write for Letterman in you spare time?