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    First crush, gone wrong?

    I'm a 19 year old male art student, and I experienced my first ever crush on a girl (same age as me) about 2 months ago.

    Just last week, I talked to this girl in private and told her how I felt about her. I know I should've done my research first, but I was later told by her that she is in a relationship.

    Obviously I do feel sad but proud at the fact that this girl really admired my courage to actually tell her.

    She also agreed that we should still be friends.

    But I felt that when I talked to her as a friend yesterday, I felt a sign of awkwardness inside of her (talking too quick and a little bit louder than usual, talking like she wanted to get rid of me).

    Another important note is that this girl is quite shy.

    I do respect the fact that she is in a relationship (of course), but I'm finding it really difficult to move on from this.

    IT STILL HURTS

    There's just a few more weeks until our course ends, and I really want things between me and this girl to end in a positive fashion.

    I want this girl to know that I've moved on, and I want this girl to feel that there is no need to worry when talking to me. I would never dream of making this girl feel any sense of awkwardness or worry as I did say to her that all I wanted was for her to be happy.

    Please help me! How do I cope with this?

    Don't forget this is the first time I've ever experienced anything like this! And I've never had a girlfriend before!

    Thanks in advance!

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    First of all man
    You made a big mistake, a most common mistake that guys make.
    You dont tell a girl you like her, try showing her instead. If you tell her, she could get scared and ect.....

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    Ooops dont get me wrong

    You told her you like her too EARLY

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    I have never had a crush on anyone. I was in love but not a crush. Maybe crushes are not mutual? ..I dont know. I dont think you did a bad thing by being straight forward though.
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    Hey! I am female, and I would personally be very flattered if a male were brave enough to tell me directly that he liked me, even if I didn't reciprocate the feelings. Who doesn't want to be liked? I think it was very sweet that you did that (unless you are really creepy, but I am assuming you are not).

    The girl may be nervous if

    1) she has never looked at you in that way
    2) she HAS looked at you in that way, but never intended to act on it, and sees now that it is within the realm of possibility
    3) she may be nervous because her boyfriend is the jealous type

    Who knows? Just try to act natural, interact with other girls, and if you really only want to put her at ease, perhaps you can casually mention that you have started dating someone else (not too quickly or she will know you are lying). The awkwardness will fade away with a little time.

    Sorry it didn't work out for you; you sound very sweet.

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    i liked a girl ... told her that and she told me that it was nothing against me but that she was getting engaged in two weeks

    be honest man and what u wrote here " i want to tell her that there is no need to worry"

    tell HER that

    u should be alright

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    Quote Originally Posted by silvervirtual
    [url]edited[/url] : Now that should do it - it's a free service that helps you find out if they care.
    you and this damn site , quit your damn spamming .

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    Quote Originally Posted by wavyglanbles
    I'm a 19 year old male art student...
    There's your problem, you're probably gay.

    I'm kidding folks! Before y'all flame me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Late_vamp
    you and this damn site , quit your damn spamming .
    Why? Why did you have to bring this thread back to life after all this time?
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    I didn't even realize the post date.

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