Fairy Tale Love?

[kc18210]

My childhood sweetheart and I were close when we were kids, but my folks got re-married when I was in high school and my family moved over seas. It all happened very quickly, and I never got the chance to tell her goodbye, even though I had a crush on her for about 5 years, I never told her. I finally did tell her a couple years ago (now 15 years later), and she told me she had a crush on me too, but she was too shy to tell me then too. Its a little funny now.

Over the past couple years the two of us have re-kindled our friendship, and very much so over the past 2 months. She lives halfway across the country. She asked me to come down and visit sometime, and I did over the holidays since I had some vacation time. I fell in love with her, and I realized that she has always been the one for me. I've never had feelings like this in my life! I know that she is everything and the only thing I want in life. I told her how I felt, that I loved her, that I wanted to marry her, that I would give her my whole life. I told her that I hoped she believed me, because I meant every word, and she does believe me, she has said so and I know its the truth. I told her that I wanted to move there to be with her, but she is an unselfish and kind person, and she would feel guilty if I gave up everything for her. She didn't say how she felt, but when I left she held me like no one has ever held me before. We were both crying, and she didn't want to let me go.

We still talk every couple nights, for about an hour, and mostly just light-hearted conversation about our day. She knows how I feel, how I would do anything to be with her. I haven't held anything back because I know this woman appreciates honesty and I know I can trust her. It's only been a week since I left though, and I think I'm pressuring her, so I keep apologizing for putting all my emotions on her and I told her that its ok and she doesn't have to respond.

She told me that she hasn't decided, she just doesn't know, whether or not she wants me to move there to be with her. And I know she wouldn't ask me unless she meant it. I told her its ok, that I don't want to push her. I'm trying not to overwhelm her with my emotions, because I have learned women tend not to like that. She told me she does care about me, but she is afraid to say anything else beyond that. If fact, she feels comfortable talking to me about anything, except her feelings for me. I guess because she isn't sure. I don't think she would ever lie to me. She is genuinely confused on what to do. I told her I would wait as long as it takes, and I mean it.

I will be devastated if the two of us don't end up together. I would do anything to make sure this happens, this fairy tale, I would love her forever. The best thing, I think, is for me to move to her and allow us to build a relationship, but I have to know that she wants me to be there and she feels confident that she loves me or will love me before I leave my house, family, and everything else behind. I did find a job that is waiting for me if I do move there, and she knows. I have someone who will rent my house, and she knows this too.

I guess I just ease back and wait?

[MehicanFather]

Yeah, ease back and wait bro.

[IndiReloaded]

Enjoy what is, back off on the pressure. You sound compatible, but remember that love is *patient*. What is the urgency? Do you really want to move to be with someone who is undecided?

Maybe you should start seeing other girls. Just casual dating. You two aren't actually a couple as I understand your post. Might kick her interest up a notch if she feels your distancing.

[HeartIsAching]

Hey, does "Fairy Tale" love involve Love'sRetard? 'cuz he's a fairy.

[Love'sReject]

^You rotten sonabitch two-faced gaywad manslut.

[HeartIsAching]

I knew you didn't really have me ignored, fag.

[HeartIsAching]

...and I only knew that because you replied without imma quoting it. I still can't see your pish.

[HeartIsAching]

Oh... and once again - owned.

The REAL meaning of the word. Queerbait.

[Love'sReject]

Lol, but I can see yours even though I really did ignore you. OWNED you again, ****o.

[MehicanFather]

jesus wept

[Love'sReject]

Yeah from looking at your ugly mug..

[MehicanFather]

You've lost it bro. Have a t/o.

[Love'sReject]

Lol, stfu.

[kc18210]

I know you are right, and I can be patient. I have to force myself to be patient. I don't want to date other women though. I have dated a lot of women over the past 2 years, and I have learned a lot about dating/love/relationships. Its one of the reasons why I am so certain she is the one for me, after all the women I have dated she is so perfect for me. But I don't play games, I don't try to manipulate, even if it works. That's not who I am, its not what I want. I couldn't fall for another woman right now anyway, and I couldn't use another woman just to make her jealous.

One thing I didn't mention is that nothing sexual happened during my visit, which I don't know is good or bad. She is a traditional girl and I'm a gentlemen type of guy. I asked her if she felt anything when I was with her, and she said yes, but she was in a relationship that ended a few months ago after he told her that he needed some space, then after a week he had started dating someone else. She is more guarded and reserved with her feelings because of that. But she wouldn't keep texting me everyday and calling me every few nights if she didn't have strong feelings for me, right? Not since we are a thousand miles away, maybe if we lived in the same town and she was just testing the waters.

Also, she is extremely busy! She has a full time job, she is going to school full time for her PhD, she teaches private piano lessons, and she leads her choir. Her busy life may not allow much time for me even if I did move there, and I'm sure that is on her mind.

[IndiReloaded]

I don't want to date other women though. I have dated a lot of women over the past 2 years, and I have learned a lot about dating/love/relationships. Its one of the reasons why I am so certain she is the one for me, after all the women I have dated she is so perfect for me. But I don't play games, I don't try to manipulate, even if it works. That's not who I am, its not what I want. I couldn't fall for another woman right now anyway, and I couldn't use another woman just to make her jealous.

Foolish to put your eggs in one basket. Your loyalty is misplaced at this point since she's not meeting you partway. Its not manipulation to date others, this thinking is just weird. It takes the pressure off your situation and your unrequited feelings. Dating isn't the same as a relationship and the purpose is not to make her jealous (she doesn't need to know) but for you to get some needed perspective. You won't fall for another woman (if you do, then you didn't have much with her to begin with).

Its bad nothing happened sexually. You didn't have to sleep together, but some physical affection would have been a better sign. Making out, kissing, even electric touches that indicate chemistry.