Shes playing the Blame Game

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 08:57 AM

So some people know the thread "Giving me a second chance", and yeah.

So Monday, im at her place cause she asked me to stay the night. So I did. Shes on her phone texting her mom. She gets up, and puts her phone on the island because shes going to bed. We say night, and went to sleep. So, I wake up Tuesday to go to the gym. After im done, I go back and get ready for work. We are about to leave, and asks me where her phone is. I said "I havent seen it since last night." We looked for a few mins but nothing. We left for work.

So while we were at work, apparently someone was using her phone to text with. They sent some stuff to one of her friends some nasty stuff.

After we got off work, we cleaned up the apt, and never found anything. Spent about 6 hours cleaning and looking. Then she brings up "I know for a fact I had it this morning but not sure what I did with it" So we sat down, watched some TV and then had some playful fun lol.

So today, I get off work, I go over to the apt and she says "where is my phone." I told her "Im not sure. last place I saw it was on the island monday night." And then she starts blaming me for everything. She should know im not the type of person to do stuff like that. And she knows it. We have known each other since she was 4 and I was 8. Im just not sure what to do. Not sure why im getting blamed for something I never did. As long as I know I never did anything, thats all that counts, right?

**smackie9** · 10-01-13, 12:01 PM

Tell her to call her cell phone provider, and find out if there has been any activity on her phone, and find out what location. That will prove someone stole her phone. If this is the case she may as well cancel it and get a new one.

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 12:24 PM

She already called and cancelled it. As for activity and that, im not too sure. But a provider can see where the texts have been sent from? Like from exact location? If so, thats pretty interesting. Never knew that.

**Love'sReject** · 10-01-13, 12:25 PM

Yes, they do what's called "pinging": the phone sends constant communication with the nearest cell phone tower. At least, this is generally how they track movements of missing persons.

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 12:41 PM

So, if I send someone a text from the mall, my provider can say it was sent from the mall?

**Love'sReject** · 10-01-13, 12:43 PM

It depends on the person's phone being turned on, otherwise it can't ping back to the local cell tower. The phone provider can only tell which tower the ping is coming from, not the specific place it is coming from but it does isolate the phone to a small proximity unless it and the person who is carrying it keeps moving.

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 12:50 PM

Oh, okay. I never knew that at all. You learn something new everyday.

**Love'sReject** · 10-01-13, 12:53 PM

At least that's my understanding of it. Another thing to keep in mind is, even local police can't get easy access to phone records when they're searching for someone. I was watching a case that was nearly ruined because the phone company didn't want to hand over the phone records of a missing person.

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 12:56 PM

Oh wow. Thats crazy stuff.

**Boisdevie** · 10-01-13, 04:12 PM

The most important point is she's blaming you 'for everything'. I'd tell her to sod off until she grows up.

**Shisimona** · 10-01-13, 09:14 PM

I'm unsure of what to do here. I know for a fact, I never did this. She even claimed she had it sometime Tuesday morning before I back from the gym and shes unsure what she did with it. So the way I look at it, shes blaming me because shes unsure where she put. Sounds like a lot of sense to me. I've told a few of my friends about all this and they all said I wouldnt do something like this. I even asked some of them I have only known for less then a year. They said the same thing. Im not sure why she dont believe me. We have known each other for almost 20 years. We even went to high school together. But her excuse for not believe me is im known to have a temper back in high school and when she dated this guy for 3 years, we only hung 2-3 times. I will admit, I did have a temper back in high school but not to do something like this. Im not the type of person to go and take someones phone and try to ruin a friendship. Im just not sure what to do anymore.