Hi everyone,
I need a little advice. My husband has a bad relationship with one of my daughters and it has taken a toll on our marriage. This is my second marriage and none of my kids are his. He gets along with 3 out of 4 of the girls and he and my other daughter just do not speak to each other. He tells me it is my fault that she acts the way she does, and it probably is. However, when things happen in the house like items coming up missing or items break, he wants to instantly blame her for the problem.
Here are a couple of situations. First he put up plastic on the Windows. My daughter was sitting in the room near the computer and the plastic was coming down from the top part of the windows. He instantly said she pulled the plastic off of the window. I asked her and she said it pulled away itself. I looked at the top of the windows and the adhesive was not sticking like it had been earlier. I fixed the window with new tape and explained that the adhesive did not stick. He didn't care what I had to say. After than it made me so mad that I told him to "grow up". Now I know some of you are going to say I was out of place but I have really had enough. Well at this point he is upset, I apologized but he said it doesn't matter because he is not going to stop blaming her for things that happen.
Another situation was he left his glasses on the kitchen table and then they came up missing. Guess what? He blamed her. Now he has had a reputation for losing things in the house, especially his glasses. Reasoning does not work with him because he is stuck.
So, I am asking, what should I do? I am at the point where I just want to dump his butt off in a field somewhere and tell him to fend for himself. I know you are supposed to work things out be we are at a terrible stalemate. Should I stick in there or just forget it. We have been married for 5 years and together for a total of 10 years and this has been going on for at least 4 years. Many of you might say I am being abused, others would say I have the patience of Job! What do you think?