Hello all,
Long story short...I was dating a guy for 6 months and a few weeks ago he asked for some time for himself. He is dealing with his sick mom, a job change, and self doubts, plus doubts about if we are right for one another. He is going through hell.
When we exchanged things he said he would call me in a few weeks when things settle down. He really does care about me and doesnt want this to be the last time we talk. Before we exchanged things, he was asking me if I could offer friendship right now instead of a relationship...and I told him I am here for him, but cannot be just his friend because it would be to self distructive.
When we said our goodbyes I told him that i wish I could be there for him, but I cant knowing he sees me as "just a friend" at this he got upset and told me I didnt understand. Then he said he just needs a few weeks and will call when things settle down. I told him if he needs anything I am here, that I hope he starts to feel better. I also said, that if in a few weeks he just wants to be friends, or is interested in anyone else, not to call, to just let it be.
It has been hard because I want to be there for him more than anything, but know I cannot due to the effects his situation was having on me....I know its not about me! This is all about him...but I was crying in the womens washroom every day at work and making myself crazy and just couldnt live that way.
Of course I am hoping he calls....not too sure he will now. And when he calls, I hope I will be ready to offer whatever he needs. Best case scenareo, we get back together, but I have never seen this happen or experienced it before.
Just hurting. and he is too but there is nothing i can do, but do nothing.
I sent him a text apologizing for making it about me and that I am here whenever he is ready to make that call or if he needs anything. That he is not alone.
I feel like that was a big mistake (being that we just broke up) but with his confusing mixed messages I just knew I had to put it out there. I told him not to bother calling if he just wanted to be friends...but I didnt mean it. I want him to call, even if I cant offer him much, just so he knows he has someone.
Now its just waiting to see what happens.
Any advice or words of wisdom?