He wants me to settle for less by being with him

**Brooklyn Rose** · 29-12-09, 12:15 AM

My guy says my expectations in the relationship are to high - that I expect too much from him. He is not focused on our relationship, but, rather, what's going on in his life - and he complains that if I were with him in his environment more (at his house and dismissing all of my responsibilities), I wouldn't feel slighted like I do.
It's clear that he can't give any more to me of himself than he has and he actually said to me "Maybe if you lowered your expectations we'd be happy and get along!"
How should I respond to this...we're not litteraly "together" in a relationship - he does his thing and I do mine.
What man in his right mind would be OK with a woman settling for less and staying in a relationship with them????
Explanation: I expect him to spend more time with me (and he can't because he has too much going on in his life)
and I expect him to treat me different than his friends - which he doesn't - he extends himself to everyone equally and other than sex, him and I share nothing that is just for us - he is just a nice guy who will save EVERYONE and the way he is with me, is the way he is nurturing and caring with everyone...He doesn't see this, but I have many examples of how he gives and gives to everyone and I get minimum.

**shheadz** · 29-12-09, 12:17 AM

Can you give examples of why he thinks you're expectations are too high? Maybe they are.

**davidtorres** · 29-12-09, 12:48 AM

you have to understand that guys sees success in their careers and girls sees success in relationship/ marriage/ family. I think he is just being honest.