How does this sound

[i dont know]

I accidently posted this in the ask a male section.I am not sure how to remove it but i want this here.

So i am finely going to tell a girl that i have feeling for how i feel about her.I don't think she likes me but its something i need to say to her so that i can move on.It will be something like


"(Her name)There is something i have been wanting to tell you for a long time,and if at any point you feel uncomfortable just tell me to stop.what i wanted to say is that i really like and i think you are a beautiful and strong young woman.I love being around you and every time i am i feel happy.Now i know you don't feel the same way,but this is something that i needed to say do that i can move on.I am sorry if i have made you uncomfortable and i will understand if you do not want to reply.I also want you to understand that if you reply or not it will not affect how i treat you at the school or anywhere else.Also if you want i will leave you alone the rest of the day."


Now i want you all to understand i am 21 and she is 25.My family knows her family and we are all good friends.She is also a member sports program where i work.She also has a kid.Now i have tried to get her to hang out with me as a friend i was not asking her out on a date.She told some lies and i know they where lies.This is something that i need to do so that i can move on.

Now if she does respond and its good then i think i might risk it and ask her out.Do you think i should add something like i would love to take you to dinner some time in what i am going to say to her? also should i ask her if i have a chance with her? Let me know what you all think.I can answer any questions you might have.

BTW our family's a going on this day trip. We are bringing our own cars and i know i will have her alone for like 10 minuets about 1,000 feet away from any one else.


Thanks

[ashley89]

if you know she doesn't like you why go through all this trouble? I'm not saying this to be mean, but if she is a family friend and you have to see her when you're working it might make it really awkward if you pour your heart out and she doesn't feel the same way back. you said she has made up lies or excuses when you asked to hang out and you don't think she likes you, so how come you want to tell her anyways?

[bearz]

I'm with Ashley, you already asked her to do something with you, and she didn't want to, she even made up lies. You're in for a major disappointment. I've done something like this before, and I definitely didn't like the end result. But if you think you need to get your heart stomped on in order to move on, go ahead.

[strong4ever]

I agree, with all the above. You obviously care for her and if you tell her these things she may start cutting off all contact which will hurt you even more than just the rejection that may come with this.

[i dont know]

To all the above.

Let me try to clear things up.I asked her if she wanted to go do this thing i know she never did before.She said that she was busy that day.I asked her again a little later and and got the same response. I do know she is very busy.She goes to school and works.Her job is to take care of her mom,brother and son.I know she has little time.When at work she will talk to me for hours in the office and mess around with my stuff teasing me.See i am confused she does this kind of stuff all the time,we talk all the time on Facebook. when i said that i knew it was a lie a family member had posted on her wall saying that they wanted to go do something one day.She replied with something like sounds good i think i am free Tuesday or Wednesday.

This make me think that she just does not want to hang out with me.She will hang around after everyone leaves at work and talk with me,but does not want to hang out anywhere else. some people have said that she might not want to hang out as a friend and this is her was of trying to get me to ask her out,

One last thing i want to say something to her soon because in about 3 months i will be joining the military. If she does not have feelings for me then fine that's not why i am joining,But if she does that would be a reason for me to stay.I do thank you all for your help and i will think about all this before i do any thing.

[bearz]

Just noticed you posted this in three different forums. Anyway...

I'd just ask her out one more time, ask her if she'd be interested in grabbing a bite to eat some day. Don't mention a specific day so she can't turn you down right away. Put the ball in her court and see if she accepts and comes back with a possible day. And if she's not interested you'll know right away. Then it's time to move on.

[i dont know]

thank you,Ya i did not mean to post in one of them,and i was not sure how to delete the other one.

[smackie9]

If you want to increase your chance for her to like you, what you posted is the worst thing you can do. Girls look at that stuff as sappy and weak, and won't be impressed by it......it's a turn off. You want to look like a man, not a wimp, so don't do it. Ask her out with confidence, and make sure she knows it's a date. Tip: keep it simple and spontanious like go on a coffee date or a quick drink, or go for an ice cream, whatever. Keep it to about 45 mins. Then it won't be so intimidating.

[ashley89]

I think her actions alone indicate that she isn't interested, but if you really want to persist and get this off your chest then all the power to ya. I definitely would leave out the "if this makes you uncomfortable" bit because that sentence alone would make me want to run in the other direction.

[smackie9]

I know how this goes.....You don't come out and say it but you think that this is the only solution to have her be with you (big hopes in your heart). I have been in her shoes, it doesn't work. This is not how you try to win someone over if this is truly what you want to accomplish. Just simply asking them out on a date is the least embarrassing way to do it. If nothing ever comes of it, later down the road you can jokingly say that you had a huge crush on her and whoever gets to be her BF will be one lucky guy.