Was going out with this chick ( I just don't get i)

[kano]

Ok.. so I've just started this course.. before it started me and this girl who were gonna be in the same class automaticly hit it off, good chemistry etc

Also just so we're clear the days used is from the 25th of feb till last fri, so when I say saturday and sunday its not the ones just been

Anyways second week we started course we started seeing each other, hooked up, not sex or anything though as I was in the transition of moving house and couldn't bring her over to where I was for the time being, but in the first week we saw each other every day obviously but hung out 4 of the 5 days for a few hours afterwards

And things were great I felt, we get along, laugh, have fun and what have you, it appeared we were in sync etc

Anyways also should add that when we started seeing each other we agreed mutually to keep it under wraps.. people started to click on in the latter part of the week however and 2 of her classmates found out about us.

Anyways Saturday we were meant to go out, but canned it as she caught my cold, all good, sent flirty texts indicating at sex saying she couldn't wait for me to move and how outta all the guys shes been with I'm the first she actually really wants to do it with (shes 18 im 24)

We meet up Sunday ) and I have a bit of a heart to heart with her after finding out more stuff she went through, and saying as much as I want to I don't wanna take advantage etc

Then on Monday find out her mates gone awol and wanting to take himself out, so she had to be there for him and stuff, fair enough, Tuesday we were meant to hang, she canceled for her mate ok, fair enough, Wednesday again we were meant to hang and it was looking like it 2 hours before course finished till she gapped it 5 mins before I did and her excuse was oh I thought you still had work to do..

Said to her how was a bit annoyed how she just stood me up like that kinda but understood she has to be there for her mate but wanted to spend time with her, she replied, yeah :/ sorry I owe you! which I thought it was abit off being so brief. but left it at that

Then later on she texts saying how someone else found out about us but its all good, etc this was my fault, but she didn't seem to mind too much but she said something like apparently you froze putting me on the spot

So I said correct me if I'm wrong but I kinda get the vibe you wanna end it, if you do just say so. no text back, she ran out of credit then texts me twice the next day at 6.30 telling me to ring her, so I did, she said she was pissed how she couldn't reply and said she really likes me but she has to be there for her mate but wants to make time for me etc. all good

anyways that day heres when things went weird as we had an overnight camp to go to

Things are fine, then later on when we are left to do our own thing, it appears to be a mission to get her on her own, admitedly it was hard but she hinted the whole day how she wants to me with me but when it comes to the crunch she acts weird... she even text a **** me text to which I responded in kind but when I did she acted weird saying all I'm off is sex, we had a bit of a debate about it but sorted it

Next day things are awkward, again but we were in seperate groups so didn't see much of her, near the end I had a tiff with her mate.. at the end of the day I asked if she was ok? and she said she wants to end it its not working etc and brings up the tiff with me and her mate, I'm like hold on can you tell me this in person which was a struggle but she did it, and said something along the lines of, I'm sorry just somethings different about it, it doesn't feel right, I shouldn't have to hide our relationship and not want people to find out.

Now this is where I'm confused, as I said before we share good chemistry and get along to a T, and I find it weird thinking about it that things turned sour when the 2 of her good classmates who both don't like me I feel knew about us, could they of had an influence? She also said she felt different the moment people found out about us to.

Also the more I think about the more of a mind **** it is cause I should of told her its been a while for me with a girl period and felt maybe I sucked at kissing or some bullshit

I just need proper closure, rather than somethings different whatever could that mean? sorry for the long read.. felt I had to break it down for you to get a better understanding.

[OKANEED]

I reckon they definitely had an influence, being a guy I cannot say for sure, but girls tell each other absolutely everything, and if both of her best friends don't like you, then what is she going to think? I don't reckon you should completely give up, but maybe finding out why here friends don't like you? Also the fact that she wanted to keep it secret is a little strange, if she really liked you she would be confident to let everyone know, especially her friends.

[michelle23]

it sounds to me like she just doesnt trust you, is wary of getting too close coz she thinks youll hurt her.

this whole story sounds similar to a guy i dated for a month. basically i just got a bad vibe off him, knew he was a player and hed prob break my heart so i ended it. it was just a gut feeling but i heard plenty of stories about him after i ended it which prkved me right.

[michelle23]

or maybe her "friend" is actually her bf.
or maybe she just doesnt like you.

[Cerby]

Lots of reading for a simple answer - you two aren't compatible for some reason, and she isn't feeling it. Oh, and here is a quick life tip - when you're dating someone for 3 dates and they decide they're not interested, you aren't entitled to any closure.

[kano]

Ok so... today was interesting, she being friendly as I basicly pulled away and moved myself away from her as I'm trying to get over her right? She even texted me asking if I was mad etc

Anyways so some girls know the deal and apparently she broke up with me cause she didn't want stress from the class with our ages etc, like shes embarrased or someshit, but thing is the girls still think she likes me, always find ways to get near me etc.

It is so weird.

Also cheers for comments so far guys