How long did it take everyone to get completely over a breakup?

[kskts6115]

I just feel like some days it's taking forever! Sometimes I feel okay with everything and understand but on days like today I just feel really sad and think back on all the things I could have done better. It's hard because I feel like I could have put so much more into it but I was so afraid of getting hurt that I pulled back and didn't say a lot of things. Because of that I feel like I messed up something that could have been good. I just don't understand how everything could have felt so right on my side but apparently not on his.. It's just confusing.

Also, I'm just really not into dating anyone right now. I look at other guys and think they are cute but I don't want to pursue anything with them because I guess I'm still holding onto this guy. I know it's dumb but I can't seem to shake him off. Any tips on getting him completely off my mind? Because I don't want to waste my time, energy, or tears on someone who doesn't want me but it's so much easier said than done. I wish we just didn't fall in love with the wrong people than life would be easier!

[michelle23]

First breakup-1 month

2nd break up-6 months

3rd breakup-0 time-I wanted out way before it ended.

[Kromat83]

1st (only had one) - less then a day it took
**** we were very close over the 1 month we spent,
and hanged out at Least 10+ times over that stretch.
Also drove her at least 7 times for work, we talked a lot.

-- it became long distance, and only lasted 1 month afterwards.
I wanted future plans, she was just for the moment.

[smackie9]

Never took longer than a month.

[HeartIsAching]

Took me over a year once. Mainly because she kept ****ing with my head and contacting me... but even after she stopped that, it was at least six months.