Should I keep my options open or not?

[butterflybabe]

I've been talking to this guy romantically for almost a year now. He's been hinting he's gonna ask me out soon. I really like him, but red flags are going up in my mind. First off, let me start off by saying he's a really good guy - genuine, generous, smart, ambitious and sweet. I worry he has a temper, though. He uses tone with me occasionally. He's usually passive aggressive with me, but I worry he has an angry side he isn't showing me. He also insulted me once. It wasn't a direct insult. He said he was in my class for a reason, but then he said it was a good thing for me and not for him. I know he's probably insulting me to get me to go out with him and that everyone does that. I just don't wanna be with someone like that. I just worry that he has a temper. I really don't wanna be with someone who insults me all the time either. He's been hinting he's gonna ask me out in a month. So the question is should I keep my options open?

[lamobatsman]

Have u been on any dates???

[butterflybabe]

Have u been on any dates???

We haven't been on any dates, but we got to know each other at school for about a year like I said.

[basilandthyme]

If you're already having qualms and haven't yet been on a date, then DON'T GO ON A DATE with him. It really is this simple. And for what it's worth, he doesn't sound like much of a prize.

Turn off the romantic interaction, make sure that you're giving zero signs of interest and move on. If he does eventually ask you out, say 'no'.

[pcmaster]

You call that insult? I dont even see swearwords ! Ask him what he mean with it ! - You could simply misunderstand that you silly bitch(thats insult).

What we guys try is not to be all the way friendly in order to get friendzoned, cause too soft guys just isnt atractive.

Heres what I mean with it -

youtube.com/watch?v=0I0iNxiICNI

[butterflybabe]

You call that insult? I dont even see swearwords ! Ask him what he mean with it ! - You could simply misunderstand that you silly bitch(thats insult).

What we guys try is not to be all the way friendly in order to get friendzoned, cause too soft guys just isnt atractive.

Heres what I mean with it -

youtube.com/watch?v=0I0iNxiICNI

I said that I know guys are mean to get girls to go out with them. That isn't even necessary, though. Everyone wants respect. All a guy has to do is not come on too strong, and then girls will consider them. This doesn't mean being mean to girls or trying to control them.

By the way, insulting me is illegal and I could have had you arrested, if I wasn't such a laidback person. And insults don't have to contain swear words. Lol.

[basilandthyme]

Of course insulting women isn't necessary for a date. Keep your standards Butterflybabe and only date someone who treats you with respect.

[michelle23]

If your having doubts already and you havnt gone out yet-then i dont think you should say yes especially if your worried he may be abusive. It doesnt even matter if your right or wrong about that-the fact is you dont trust him so you should forget.

Dont go around saying crap about him though. You dont have any proof that he is so keep it to yourself. It wouldnt be fair to him to tell people hes this, that and the other when you dontno that for sure.

Most teenage boys put on a front, macho act and try to be all cool etc-you could be reading his BS wrong but it is BS so forget him.

[pcmaster]

Dont understand what are you talking about. Maybe thats just who the guy is. It doesnt mean that hes doing something to get you to go out with him. He didnt even asked you out yet you already considering answer. Start to live in reality. Think you should just come back to reality and stop thinking about yourself that hight.

When I ask girl out its just a one sentence - "Would you like to go to..." or "We could meet..." simple as that

I agree its not nessesary to insult to get a date and where that concept even comes from - retarted guy or your fantazy ? What he said about asking you out? What was his "hints" that he will ask you out?

[butterflybabe]

I should clarify. He hasn't been hinting that he wants to go on a date. He's been hinting that he wants to ask me to be his girlfriend. He left several hints on Twitter, talking about how he wants a commitment and whatnot.

[basilandthyme]

So, what do you think after discussing it? Will you accept or not?

[HDBadger]

By the way, insulting me is illegal and I could have had you arrested, if I wasn't such a laidback person. And insults don't have to contain swear words. Lol.

This can't possibly be serious, but on the off-chance it is, I know what your problem is: You are hyper-sensitive.
And no, guys, for the most part, can't just be respectful and straightforward and see results with women.

[smackie9]

You are obviously one of those who over analyzes every god damn thing. HD is right, you are too hypersensitive.

Anyways I believe his own anxiety with you, is what you are misinterpreting as a "Bad Temper". You truly don't know how someone will treat you unless you go out on a few dates with them. Have some confidence in this situation,..... accept that he probably really likes you, but is trying to muster up the courage to ask you out that is all.

[fearoflove]

Ugh...hate guys who speak so disrespectfully to women. Even when its a joke, when a guy does that before he even befriends the girl, he is a pig. Guys like that don't know the meaning of boundaries and would probably disrespect you in other ways if you get involved with him. Don't go out with him.

[Boisdevie]

One year of idle chat and he's hinting he might ask you out? Jeez I've seen glaciers move quicker than this.
Imagine you say yes. With this kind of speed I'd expect to see the holding hands stage in say a couple of years, the first kiss at 5 years, the 'are we official' conversation at 10 years. By the time you're ready to retire you might even get to have sex.