For discussion, negatives of getting back your ex.

[Zolito]

I will not mention my whole story again in the forum because I already mentioned it in another thread.

Now I am thinking again to initiate another trial to get back my ex fiance, I broke up with her six months ago and tried to contact her about three times and she lately changed her mobile no.

Some questions are raised in the top of my head before trying again with her:

A. Does she really deserve my trials to get her back?
B. Will she ignore me again and I will only get hurted more?
C. Is she currently dating another guy? may be.

I was searching google for the negatives of getting back your ex again and here is a brief summary:

1. One of the most points that made me think thousands times before contacting her again is that for sure she talked about me very bad in front of her family, friends.....etc, so you are not welcomed anymore from the people arround her, may be also they are no longer respecting you.

2. Researches confirmed that 99% of relationships restored after a breakups ends in tears (statistical certainty).

3. You brokeup for a reasons and who knows that this reason may be the same reason of a future breakup or other reasons you both do not realize yet.

These were the top three points from tens of other reasons I will not state here.

For my case it is not about just having a girl friend, I want to marry and have children, and this is a long term commitment, I tried to date about five girls since my breakup and never felt attracted to any of them, I still have emotions towards my ex fiance and cannot get rid of it till now.

So I neither can have her back nor feel attracted to any other girl. I am really so MISERABLE.

[MsMaccoby]

Dunno why you guys broke up, but reasons NOT to get back with your ex:
1) You don't feel attracted to anyone else - you only dated 5 girls and 6 months isn't that long to be single.
2) You want marriage and kids. This should only be built upon from a good solid relationship, not from a breakup!
3) You feel miserable - Getting over someone can be hard.
4) You are asking if she deserves this trial. Hmm. Another sign the residue of pain has not gone.

I wish you peace.

[michelle23]

Why did you break up? Did you break her heart? If yes, keep walking. Shell never trust you again even if you do maage to get her back