Hi everyone,
Just looking for opinions on the subject of flirting while in a relationship.
Personally if I'm serious about someone , I don't. I don't even really think about it - even if someone super hot walks by or chats with me, I am somehow always thinking of my boyfriend.
The issue I have been struggling with is that I have caught my SO a number of times. It has almost been a year since I last saw anything. So he did it shamelessly 5-6 times that I know of in a 2 1/2 year period, all being within the first year and a half.
1) When he first started dating im pretty sure he lied to me about somewhere he went with some buddies, as he added a random girl on fb, claiming he didnt know who she was, and then Proceeded to facebook msg her saying she was beautiful.
2) Inboxed his ex telling her how beautiful she looked in recent pictures
3) Messaged and had a full conversation with a girl 4 years younger than him about how if she was sexy and she even told him to quit flirting because he was in a relationship.
4) messaged a few old friends calling them `sexy` or beautiful
5) Last summer I read a message he wrote to someone he hasnt even met in person saying " hey sexy" and then they had a convo about how if he lived near her he'd marry her and how she was beautiful and SHE SAID "you have a girlfriend, behave".
I guess what I want to know is.... Is this acceptable? It REALLY bothers me, and most of the time I see these things without wanting to see them. Most of the time i wish i'd never saw it and read it. I didn't even bring up most of this with him because I wanted to give him a chance and see if he'd grow up a little and appreciate what he has with me. It has been since last august that he's flirted, that I know of anyways. We are both 23.
I am always worried about finding something out like this again - because I know my worth and I could not stay with him. Sometimes I get angry that I forgave the other stuff. I am an attractive girl and I woudlnt have a problem finding another guy . He treats me like a princess otherwise and loves me - so then what is the flirting all about? Does he not realize how hurtful it is???
Why do people in relationships feel the need to flirt and is it acceptable to you??
Opinions please!