I became very frustrated with the online dating sites I was using, because I was getting responses from men who were just too old. I look much younger than my 55 years and changed my profile to say that I was 45 just to see if I could attract younger men. It worked. I was contacted by, went out with and have begun a relationship with a man who is 41. I'm very close to falling in love with him. He thinks I'm 45 and I've agonized every day over the last four weeks over how and when to tell him the truth. I've been advised to tell him: it won't matter; don't tell him: wait until he is in love. All I know is that I fear he will feel betrayed and walk away. It's a huge age difference. What do you all think?