About a year ago I had just got out of a real serious relationship of three years. Immediately after I met a girl who wanted to hang out and was interested in me. At first it was great, she kept me company when I was lonely, and we had the greatest time together everyday. We stated that we wanted to be exclusively with each other but not date each other. This went on for months and it was a good time except that she would get drunk and tell me things and do things that didn’t make her look good. Also I kept hearing things about her past that were unsettling. Despite all this we would tell each other how much we loved and cared about each other.
Eventually despite the love and the good times I caught her in a couple lies about where she was and with whom – and caught her cuddling with an ex-boyfriend. I ended it shortly after.
Now that’s all fine and dandy, and it probably sounds like a normal relationships life cycle. The problem is that it didn’t stop there. Because we were never really dating, we both figured it would be a good idea to try being friends. Every time we tried this we’d end up sleeping with each other. Now that’s not really a bad thing but it would always end in an argument and us not talking. Sometimes these mini fights were my fault – sometime they we hers. But it happened like 3 times.
Well this last time was the longest we’ve never seen each other and it was refreshing to just hang out again. I really felt that I had gotten all the feelings out of me for her and I think she did the same. She was seeing someone and I was kind of involved so we could just hang out. This wasn’t like before because I could talk about relationships, sex other people that I was involved with, and it really felt like it didn’t matter.
Needless to say that we started sleeping together several times a week and she was still sleeping with this other kid. But I said **** it and they ended up fighting and breaking up. She met some other kid right after and started talking to him but only when I wasn’t around. To prove that I didn’t care I would invite the kid over to her house and she would refuse. But she made it clear to me that he’s interested in her and she’s is in him but they supposedly “haven’t slept together”, and I haven’t met him. But isn’t it bad to do what were doing behind these people’s backs? Well I guess it’s up to her. And she just keeps on telling this kid we were never together and that we are just good friends.
My only major dilemma is that she is beginning to say things like don’t leave me tonight and she gets mad when I don’t wanna go home with her. She also tweaks out when I start paying attention to other girls. Now I have to admit that it’s hard to watch an Ex flirt with other people. Let alone to watch an Ex that you still mess with do that. But that was the deal when we got into this thing. I know that she’s with other people and I deal with it.
So where am I at now? I’ve got an Ex that is upset because she had to watch me flirt with someone. But she won’t admit that to me. We fought about where I was sleeping and I got fed up and she left after I wouldn’t talk about it anymore.
It now feels uncomfortable around her and I really don’t know what to say because I was pretty mean to her. Also I don’t wanna bring this up because she’ll deny that was why she was so upset, but I think she’s starting to feel for me again. I don’t wanna not hang out with her because I have a lot of fun with or without sex. Does this mean that we can’t be **** buddies or at least hang out anymore? How should I proceed and what should I say?