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Thread: So after 5 years of marriage I still fantasize about.................my wife

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    So after 5 years of marriage I still fantasize about.................my wife

    Is that weird to some people? To me it isn't and I think it ties into just how great of a sex life we have. Despite having one (and another one coming) kids we have never run out on times to have sex and still do it several times a week. We just have to adjust to our kids' schedule a bit more. We still do kinky things, I still take sexy pictures of her, we role play, etc. We always keep things fresh and exciting and it is never mundane or boring.

    Yet, despite the fact that I love my wife for who she is as a person I still have the same animal lust and fantasies about her that I did right when we first met. It hasn't died down at all, it has gotten stronger, I think. So who else is in a situation like this? Or who else WAS once in a situation with their spouse before it died off, and why/how did it die off?

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    I have been with the same woman for 22 years and still fantasize about her and she still does things to keep me interested. I get what you are saying.

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    My husband and I go through periods on and off with this. Some times we'll be busy and our sex drives will be low, so not much will happen. Then all of a sudden, we'll both be really into for a while.
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    After 5 years-the lust is definately still there. I think he is the sexiest man on earth. Just looking at him turns me on especially on a lazy day when hes just had a shower, his hair is wet and hes wearing a baggy tracksuit pants and tshirt. For some reason my hormones go into overdrive on these days we keep it exciting and fresh. Both enjoy trying different things. I love buying sexy lingerie-it makes me feel really sexy and i know he loves it too. I know we will enjoy this for many years to come.

    I already worry about what will happen when were both 60 haha. How do you keep the spark there then when your both ageing? Any tips so i can prepare early haha
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    Quote Originally Posted by michelle23 View Post
    After 5 years-the lust is definately still there. I think he is the sexiest man on earth. Just looking at him turns me on especially on a lazy day when hes just had a shower, his hair is wet and hes wearing a baggy tracksuit pants and tshirt. For some reason my hormones go into overdrive on these days we keep it exciting and fresh. Both enjoy trying different things. I love buying sexy lingerie-it makes me feel really sexy and i know he loves it too. I know we will enjoy this for many years to come.

    I already worry about what will happen when were both 60 haha. How do you keep the spark there then when your both ageing? Any tips so i can prepare early haha
    Well don't take this the wrong way at all because I would rather be in the position where you still can't keep your hands off each other rather than bored with each other which could lead to a "grass is greener" concept (and believe me, I have friends who have gone through this and seperated). But a good way to spice things up is through cameras and video. In many ways my wife is my own personal porn star. This is the way I look at it, you can be a pervert, but its okay to be a pervert with just one person. We never get bored and I can assure people that you see your spouse in a WHOLE new light when you watch them on video. I'm 32, so that stuff works like a charm so far. I assume as both partners age at the same time they'll still find each other sexy.

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    Very inspiring to hear when I get married someday

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    My bf isnt comfortable with videos. I recorded us once on my phone. He went along with it and i thought hed like it. Last week we were discussing this man who put pics of his own wife on the net to make moey off her. He revealed to me then that he wasnt okay with the whole camera thing we did. It made him feel awkward and i said you should have told me at the time. I wouldnt have cared if he said no, i was only doing it for him coz i thought hed like it .

    But theres lots of other things we are both into. Im defo gonna take a few pics of me naked that i can give to him when im old haha.

    I think the intimacy and the closeness becomes more important as you get older. Even if sex drive lowers and its not on the menu as much-staying close is really important when you reach those twilight years. Still flirting, cuddling, hand holding, hobbies that you can do together and as much sex as you can handle at that age.

    My fear is being with him for 20 or 30 years, growing apart, affairs etc, divorce. Ill do what i can to avoid that happening by ensuring we stay really close
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    Go brag somewhere else.
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    5 years isn't very long, and most marriages are still lusty.

    Come back at 10.

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