Any signs of someone who love you only for citizenship?

[Nikar]

Hi all,

I just got to know a girl from an online dating site, and we have since moved out of it and is now chatting on Skype everyday.
I'm from Singapore, she from India.
We also sent and exchange voice recordings and photos.
She's from another country. So far, everything is going well, she seems genuine, and we will be meeting each other next month.

On Skype, we talk about sex, joke around with each other, and talk about everything under the sun.

However, I've heard horror stories of foreign girls cheating guys and marry them for the citizenship, then dumping the guy and finding another one etc.
Had a talk with one of my older friend today who ask me to avoid foreign girls cos' they're very manipulative and can do anything to make the men fall in love with them etc.

Btw, she was the one who chased after me consistently, and I gave in. I told her I've no money and that if she wanna be with me, she would need to prepare for a life of poverty.
She said she didn't mind, so maybe she's not after money, but citizenship?

I don't want to become such a victim, so is there any folks who have experience in this? Or had friends who had experience?
Also want to know what are the signs and symptoms of girls who do this kind of cheating.

Tks!
Nikar

[smackie9]

I'm surprised she is even considering dating someone outside of her race. Traditionally the parents start to choose a husband for them and this is a very strong tradition. My take would be that her family is behind this encouraging her to get out of the country so the rest of her family can follow. They do that here where I live....Surrey is full of immigrants from India.

My experience is my friend's son married a Thai girl, had a baby and moved here....she didn't last a year and she was gone. It devastated him and my friend....now they are fighting for custody of the child....I feel so sad for them because he really loved her. My friend took care of the baby even tho she was sick with a serious illness. The both of them sacrificed so much for that girl and this is what they got.

[Nikar]

Thanks Smackie! Actually, she's kind of different from most indians in that she's rather absorbed in eastern culture (mainly chinese, korean and japanese) and knows a lot about these stuff and their language etc.
She said she didn't want to go back to India and doesn't like indian guys (prefers chinese guys etc.). I guess this is due to personal preferences, like how some asian guys only want to date white guys etc kind of thing.

Anway, I'll observe carefully and see how it goes. Tks!

[Exeter19]

why even think that, you are only chatting and has she ever asked you for anything yet? if you think bad things about her this early on you will ruin your relationship with her because you are doubting. relax. wait until she says something that worries you.

[Nikar]

Thanks Exeter.

Ok, I can't believe what is happening to me now. I got suspicious last night after I asked her out for the 3rd time and she postpone the date again. She would always promise to meet on Xth day, then keep postponing.
Add to that, I asked her for pictures that were taken at home, but she keep delaying again. So, suspecting that I'm a victim of catfishing, I used Google search by image (you upload someone's photo and search with that, and see what websites contain that photo). And guess what??? The photos that she sent me previously, and those on the online dating site.......are all FAKE. It turned out to be a model's photos (no wonder the camera angle and quality are so top-notch and professional looking).

I feel so lost and empty now. Turns out it's not citizenship scam, but catfishing. Need some time to get over this, and this is the last I'll ever try online dating again.
It's a good thing in that I didn't commit 100% (the rule says don't commit 100% to someone you never even meet) and secondly, I only know her for 2 months, and sensing something wrong at the start of the relationship (ie: her personality is TOO GOOD to be true), I kept a bit of my guard on. Thus the emotional damage was reduced, unlike that guy who was a victim of catfishing for 7 years.

Kinda sad, though.....I was so happy these few weeks thinking I found the right one whose personality matches mine, but.....aye.

Thanks for listening, though.
Nikar

[Exeter19]

that sucks. do you know what she really looks like, and how old? if she was not as pretty or fatter or older would you still like her personality though? obviously you liked more than her fake pics if talking that long. did she admit it? sorry, man. are you curious what she really looks like?

[Nikar]

Yeah, if she's not as pretty as the model photos that she used (obviously), I'm ok with that. If she's a little plump, I can live with that. The personality she portrayed was perfect, but then again, I guess most of it is all fake. I think even her name is fake.
After I told her I caught her red-handed yesterday, she vanished completely. Anyway, I'm pretty much over it now. Yeah, I'm curious what she looked like, but I'm thinking it's an ugly fat chick behind the screen. Even then, if she didn't do all these fake crap, we would have been friends at the least. Thanks though.