I met a man who is 16years older than me (I'm 25), over a year ago. He lives in a different state than I, but was back in town visiting his college, as I was graduating. We hit it off immediately. We never made the relationship sexual when we first met because he told me he was hesitant of how much younger I was than him. After talking with him constantly for over a year I can never get him off my mind! He recently came to visit me for 5 days. He still refused to have full penetrative sex b/c he said he didn't want to and then have to leave me, but he did perform oral on me. And, NO he doesn't have ED or any medical issue preventing us from having sex. He told me he likes am a lot and would love to have sex but that if I get hurt he can't stand that it would be his fault.
I know he doesn't just see me as a kid, but there's obviously some part of him that must see the age difference as a problem or he wouldn't be so persistent about protecting my feelings (he's said this). So, how do I approach this? I've tried dating other men and all I want is him.
I've even met his parents, siblings, and some friends. He's never been married and doesn't have children but says he does want to someday and brings this up a lot. I know he's not dating anyone else