Almost Dated Now Want To

[bam222]

So I've been talking to this girl pretty much non stop for about 3 years. We had never really hooked up or anything until recently and we did 3 or 4 times in a week or so's time. I asked to date and she said yes but we were both drunk. Later on she said we should just keep talking then a few days after that she said she likes us better as friends and basically cut it off. i don't know if it's because i blew up her phone one night when i was drunk or what but I really like her and want to get back to where we were at least would like to date her. what should i do?

[basilandthyme]

This 'blowing up her phone' business.....are we talking about you being needy at the time? If so, it may well have been a huge red flag to her. Though only she knows the real reason.

My suggestion is that you back away from her. This will be a win/win for you: a) it may make her miss you and decide that she wants you as a boyfriend after all. b) if she doesn't change her mind, it will give you the space you need to recover from your feelings for her.

[bam222]

well the night after she texted me saying we shouldn't be more than friends i blew her up again but after that we've still been talking all the time so idk what should i do? you want me to just randomly stop at this point still or what? i think she wanted to hang out late one night too though